08-24-2020, 01:02 AM
(08-23-2020, 09:41 AM)Shannon Wrote: I can confirm that it works, too, because last night was our first night on LTU6. I wanted to stay on OF and so did she, but some factors required the change. So we switched and today she was getting very upset in ways that normally trigger me because she projects so much negativity and doom and gloom. But today, while I wasn't enjoying it, I just shut my mouth instead of make things worse. It was much easier to remain calm, and I was able to resolve it without a fight in about 20 minutes, even though she specifically attempted to start a fight "so we can get it over with".
I'd say that's some DRS right there.
Interesting, I had a very similar experience with my partner. In the middle of the argument I was very calm and things didn't get to me. At one point I could feel a heating up which disappeared after. The thing is, I got so angry after because I was working late and it was a terrible waste of time when I could have finished up and gone to bed. Then I had someone make a snide remark to me, they got promoted by all accounts because some senior person liked them though they're regarded as grossly incompetent and it made me rage.
Right now I can't work for the life of me. I just have no desire. It's like every fibre of my being is just shutting down to doing menial tasks I have to because we're understaffed. I'm also really being hit by major discontent at where I am in life, I'm realising that somehow I've wasted two whole years not progressing at all, in fact I think mentally I've regressed. Theres no running away from it - I've been trying to take some action and that makes me feel good for a second but this is bs.
I've absolutely gotta get a new job and create my own source of income outside of this paid labour game. It's heartbreaking to think about the time wasted.
