Shannon's Journal Discussion Thread, Vol. 5

[Zubrowka]

Ho Shannon,

I asked you before what the difference between a dominant man and domineering others people was, and you replied by comparing a hammer with  driving a nail - which after some contemplation made sense.

Now I’m reading the product page of the alpha male program and a similar question came to mind when reading the following paragraph :


What I’m wondering is what the difference is between being in control of your environment and controlling your environment?

Being in control of is a status without necessity for action.  Controlling your environment requires active participation.  You must control, gain control, before you are in control.  Once you are in control, action may or may not be requied to maintain that control.  But controlling it implies action.

In some ways, there is no difference.

But how can you gain control of a situation without making people feeling controlled by you?

Sorry if I'm jumping in without being Shannon/adding much value:

To me "being in control of the environment" means that I am in the present moment, I see what happens around me and I'm ready to act if needed (that is more like a mental attitude to me than doing a lot). Also it's kind of like "I choose to be in that environment and I am always aware that I can choose another environment/leave/change the environment"

The other part "controlling the environment" means I have to be aware of the environment and constantly act/adjust the environment that it fits my perception/vision and without my action I don't feel good about being in that environment anymore.

So the first one is for example a teacher who comes in class who does not have to do much to keep everything in control, always an answer ready, knows what he/she/it is doing and only doing what is necessary. This teacher "feels in control" by being ready.

The second teacher would be one who tries to control the students, how they sit in the class room, has to adjust everything so the teacher "feels in control" by controlling the environment. When too much changes the teacher can't adjust enough to "feel in control".

I'm sure Shannon can make that teacher example in better words.

Thanks for the reply and the analogy. So I guess it's more about being in control of yourself and your emotional state and from that place have more ability to participate in creating the circumstances around you that are preferable for your intention and guiding people towards that, rather than forcing people to follow your lead. 

If you could expand a bit on this Shannon I would appreciate it as I think I get it but I'm not fully there yet.

Also I'm interested to know if you could see that AM7 could become a natural next step after having run LTU5/6?

Shannon, this post didn't receive a reply from you and I saw that AriGold also was interested in seeing your reply on it - if you have time I think we both would appreciate if you could expand on the subject.