Shannon's Journal Discussion Thread, Vol. 5

[Zubrowka]

Ho Shannon,

I asked you before what the difference between a dominant man and domineering others people was, and you replied by comparing a hammer with  driving a nail - which after some contemplation made sense.

Now I’m reading the product page of the alpha male program and a similar question came to mind when reading the following paragraph :

Be in complete control of yourself and your environment, and YOU will be the one who controls when, how, and with whom you have sex.

What I’m wondering is what the difference is between being in control of your environment and controlling your environment?

Being in control of is a status without necessity for action.  Controlling your environment requires active participation.  You must control, gain control, before you are in control.  Once you are in control, action may or may not be requied to maintain that control.  But controlling it implies action.

In some ways, there is no difference.

But how can you gain control of a situation without making people feeling controlled by you?