Hi Voytek,
been there done that. I can relate to what you prefer. I have been like that. Needing a social stage before sex isn't natural. It comes from a deep social programming that have installed deeply rooted beliefs about sex (ie: what is appropriate and what isn't)
I can tell you that it is a fear driven need. Having a social stage first makes sex feel safer that way.
I cannot say that I have succeed in freeing myself 100% from that but at least I'm aware of it and I acknowledge it.
Insisting on having an intermediate social stage is doable but totally unnecessary. I would say that it is not necessarily a bad thing but at best a limiting belief. It makes you blind from some opportunities that may be in front of you. Not a bad or a good thing but it is an artificial wall that your mind created. It can be removed. Just believe that it is possible and it might eventually go away.
been there done that. I can relate to what you prefer. I have been like that. Needing a social stage before sex isn't natural. It comes from a deep social programming that have installed deeply rooted beliefs about sex (ie: what is appropriate and what isn't)
I can tell you that it is a fear driven need. Having a social stage first makes sex feel safer that way.
I cannot say that I have succeed in freeing myself 100% from that but at least I'm aware of it and I acknowledge it.
Insisting on having an intermediate social stage is doable but totally unnecessary. I would say that it is not necessarily a bad thing but at best a limiting belief. It makes you blind from some opportunities that may be in front of you. Not a bad or a good thing but it is an artificial wall that your mind created. It can be removed. Just believe that it is possible and it might eventually go away.
