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[Greenduck]

Now Greenduck, ask yourself.  How much of that is actually your own limiting beliefs, and how much is reality?

It’s a mindset I have decided to take to get myself out of my depression, rather than something being given to me. Either I could have jumped off a bridge or I could fight to get back to life and I choose the latter and with it came the need to create a mindset that I could fall back to when it got hard. To hope for tho n a to come and things to get better didn’t work, only hard work with myself being present with my own pain. So to answer your question, it was the reality I had to create to survive.

That is your belief based on your level of understanding.  It isn't necessarily The Truth or Omnipresent Reality.  It was your conclusion based on your circumstances and your choices.  And it's a limited and limiting belief, too.  Please remember that you are here to be part of the community here and we are all trying to improve and help each other.  While you may have been trying to help, it is not helpful to present your limited and limiting beliefs as fact to someone who is also struggling, and may not be helped by believing that they are fact.

There are always reasons and options you're not aware of.  Don't limit others with your limitations.  Let them decide for themselves what limitations they choose.

Thanks for pointing that out, it's hard to see it myself at times. I'll try to not do it again.

Yeah, and as far as chakras go, my issues around my self esteem and ex-friend are more sacral and heart chakra issues than root chakra issues. Think about it, Greenduck: what is each chakra responsible for? The root chakra is responsible for survival and staying grounded to the earth, which is important for the other chakras, but not directly related to emotional issues. The sacral chakra is about sensuality, creativity, personal power, relation to self, relation to others in a one-on-one sort of way, and sense of self worth. The Green chakra is responsible for unconditional, universal love. Do you not see how these two chakras might be more related to the issues I'm facing? And they are connected too. Now I've had my lower 3 chakras healed remotely, so that's why I'm working on my green chakra: to enter my heartspace. Perhaps my lower 3 chakras DO need more work, but if they do, it's the ORANGE chakra that needs it the most. Not the root chakra. Anyway, the sacral chakra's pain has been released and is no longer being caged up, but that doesn't necessarily men the painful emotions are gone, just that they are no longer being bottled up and stored in the seventh sub banding of the sacral ray. But I've heard of people healing sacral ray issues through green ray love. Love can heal all things. Except for physical wounds perhaps.

Try to understand that my desire to open my heart chakra stems from a personal experience I had where I felt what BEING unconditionally loved felt like. It's like... I was being filled with unconditional love and it just (at least for the moment) put my issues to rest and it felt healing. I want to put myself in that state PERMANENTLY and be able to flood others with the same love. I can't go into more detail because of rule 4, but I know what I'm working towards here. I want to re-establish that connection on this planet in this lifetime within this plane of existence. And that requires an open heart chakra.

As Ben said, your suggestions are not useful for what I'm dealing with. Not completely anyway. BBut thank you for trying to help, although your attitude about it was unnecessarily rough.

Yeah sorry man for putting it out that way. Sometimes it's hard to distinguish my beliefs from what is reality just as Shannon pointed out. Hope it didn't cause you some inconvenience, I think I just wanted to give you the "go get it" mentality that I'm trying to infuse in myself to not just sit around waiting for things to happen and creating that momentum going forward. I'll written out a short description about each chakra below:

Well the root chakra is really the foundation of your emotional state. It's your ability to hold emotions and thoughts consistent, the stepping stones to help you overcome fears (as it's blocked by fear and a blockage can make you stuck in fear). It's your ability to feel safe in any circumstance, and your ability to stand your ground even when pushed by others. It's your ability to say no. Your ability to feel anger and let people know where your boundaries are. I saw an interesting talk with jordan peterson who is a famous canadian psychologist, who expressed that you ability to set boundaries is your ability "for potential havoc" - i.e. how others feel that if they cross you, they will meet your anger, causing others being less inclined to cross your boundaries.

The sacral chakra is as you expressed it related to your emotional self, in sanscrit the word sacral mean "your own place", so your own emotional space if you may. It's related to sexuality and sensuality, forming emotional relationships with others and love (it's not only the heart chakra that deals with love but actually all of them, unconditional love is just one type of love)

The solar plexus chakra is your personality and self image, your ability to assert yourself, to not be so caring about what other people do or feel, your sense of direction, willpower, desire to compeate, improve yourself, move forward

the heart chakra is "the unhurt/unstuck", the calmness and stillness in you, the observer, the one who don't need to do anything, but can just be with it's surrounding and feel the love and be a transmitter of the love

The throat chakra is your ability to self express and find yourself in terms of your opinions but is also related to your ability to listen to others

the third eye is your insight

the crown is your connection "to the whole"

I've seen many people who go for the higher chakras as they are often not associated with the painful emotions that the lower ones are. Each chakra has a "demon" which really is just an emotion that causes the energy in the chakra to get stuck. The root have fear, the sacral have shame, the solar plexus guilt, the heart sorrow, the throat lies, the third eye desception, and the crown manipulation (not so sure about the last one, can look it up if you want). I sure understand your desire to go with the heart chakra and can also understand the reasoning behind you going for that direction, but the love that you discover in the heart will not be as powerfull or consistent as it could be if you get the lower 3 in check before going for the love center.

There are different chakra-tests you can read about online if you want to learn more and a great book (however a bit overwhelming, but a great reference book) called eastern body western mind by Anodea Judith.

Really Greenduck, you should stop giving advice. It's not helping, and i've seen you suggest some of the strangest most unhelpful things.

Like cold showers and exercise are great, but they will do jack shit to help with emotional issues, or Evolvingphoenix' attachment to his old friend and emotions around that.

You've already had issues giving advice in the past, and been warned about it. Yet you keep doing it, any chance you tell someone that some chakras are out. Which is more spiritual bypassing ***** for people to avoid actually dealing with the reality and the emotions and things they're avoiding.

This sums it up perfectly with such a wishy washy sentence after giving him yet more advice.

So I don’t know if that’s the problem but reading about your problems with setting boundaries and being affected by people around you, I would guess that working on grounding would benefit you.

"I don't know if this is the problem, it might possibly be, i'm not sure, but i'd guess so, maybe something with your chakras."

You've mainly been giving advice to people who are in a really low place and don't have a certain stability in themselves and who want to develop it, so you're coming in and getting thanks from them because they don't know any better, which is unfortunate because you aren't helping them much, and actually misleading them. And really we're getting sick of that, without actually naming, this behaviour and the responses you give when questioned about it are very, very close to someone who got banned a while ago for certain behaviour reminiscent of this.

Because anyone who more experienced is going to call you out on this if you started doing it in their journal.

But really, I know i've probably wasted my time even tying any of that up because I know your response. So i'll just consider instead giving you warnings on your account if you continue to do it.

Not everyone reads everything and take every word as a truth. Obviously as seen above something I put forward interested EP so my post isn't the poison that I sometimes feel you are trying to frame it as. Previously I talked about using psychadelics to a user, but you put it into the rules so I now abstain from doing such thing. But I am putting out my experience and the mindset I have used during the years to move forward, which I can't find being prohibited in the rules.

Sometimes I get the feeling that you discredit whatever I am writing. It makes me feel a bit discouraged to be honest.