Alpha Male 7 6G

[Greenduck]

I have a friend who I believe is an Alpha. He often is the leader in groups and he make people feel good and have a good time when around him. I feel this is a big thing, to be a stable point and give people a good laugh and be able to relax around you. He feels like a safe person. Someone you can share things with and he will not judge you but will give you solid advice. He is emotionally present, but still stable in himself. He is powerful, but still gentle. He is a guy you can trust and someone you look up too. I would love to have a program that would help me get more like that. Girls feel like girls around him, you know like he is the adult and they are younger. I guess it's because they feel safe around him. But at the same time he can be childish and laugh at stupid stuff. Life seems like an adventure to him.

And one other thing that an alpha need to have a mission that he follows to fulfil his potential, I'm not sure that this really is at the core of the alpha. Sure and alpha should try to find the best place for himself in the world, but it's his character that makes him an alpha, not his mission. There need to be a balance there, between applying yourself and being able to enjoy life with friends, girls, etc.

At the same time I have by boss who is Alpha in another way. He is a very respectful man. You respect his presence. He carried competence, experience. His insights is on point, he is humorous, straight to the point and very frank, which can be taken negatively at a start, but you after a while know that he was right and you know that he's not out to hurt you, he just tell things as they are. He is a serious guy who takes life seriously and have made a lot of $$ and been CEO for multiple large companies. But at the same time you can joke with him and you see that he is a "real guy".

They are different kind of men, and I'm pretty sure Shannon in his research have looked into different cuttings in looking into men and that AM develop the coveted traits in different kind of settings. But I guess they both carry some similarities, some common denominator that is at the basis for the AM program.

I like the suggestion with a spiritual direction of the AM program, reaching at a presence of pure, strong, stable, transformative love.

I read a quote I liked about the alpha male by a phychologist name Kaufman:

“The most attractive male is really a blend of characteristics, including assertiveness, kindness, cultivated skills and a genuine sense of value in this world,” says Kaufman. “The true alpha is fuller, deeper, and richer.”

Source for the quote:
https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style...24971.html

Another article talking about the Alpha Male
https://www.artofmanliness.com/articles/...lpha-male/

Dominant-undominant

What’s going on? Well, this most certainly doesn’t mean that the extremely brief three-sentence description of the John depicted in the control condition was sexually appealing. Rather, it’s more probable that hearing about either dominant or nondominant behavior, in isolation of other information about him, made him less sexually attractive. The researchers conclude: “In short, a simple dominant-nondominant dimension may be of limited value when predicting mate preferences for women.”

Dominance

This analysis was revealing because it suggests that dominance can take many forms. The dominant male who is demanding, violent, and self-centered is not considered attractive to most women, whereas the dominant male who is assertive and confident is considered attractive. As the researchers suggest, “Men who dominate others because of leadership qualities and other superior abilities and who therefore are able and willing to provide for their families quite possibly will be preferred to potential partners who lack these attributes.”

Their results also suggest that sensitivity and assertiveness are not opposites. In fact, further research suggests that the combination of kindness and assertiveness might just be the most attractive pairing. Across three studies, Lauri Jensen-Campbell and colleagues found that it wasn’t dominance alone, but rather the interaction of dominance and pro-social behaviors, that women reported were particularly sexually attractive. In other words, dominance only increased sexual attraction when the person was already high in agreeableness and altruism.

The simplicity of beta-alpha dividing

These results clearly show that dominance and prestige represent very different ways of attaining and maintaining status. But it’s also worth once again reiterating the overlap: qualities like strength, leadership, kindness, and morality can exist in the same person; strict categories of “alpha” and “beta” truly set up a false dichotomy that obscures what a man is capable of becoming. While dominance may be advantageous in a narrow set of circumstances, prestige is far more valued in nearly every context. Due to their authentic pride, prestigious individuals are more likely to be respected, socially accepted, and thus successful. Who would you rather have on your team — Kevin Durant or Dennis Rodman?

Conclusion

It is neither the alpha nor the beta male that is most desired by women.

Taken together, the research suggests that the ideal man (for a date or romantic partner) is one who is assertive, confident, easygoing, and sensitive, without being aggressive, demanding, dominant, quiet, shy, or submissive. In other words, a prestigious man, not a dominant man.

In fact, it appears that the prestigious man who is high in both assertiveness and kindness is considered the most attractive to women for both short-term affairs and long-term relationships. This research should offer some assurance that the genuinely nice, passionate kid who learns a culturally valued skill can be immensely attractive.

Further, seeking to become a prestigious man is not only the surest route to success with women, but achievement in any area of life.

Thus, I think a much more effective and healthier route for men having difficulty attracting women is not to attempt to cultivate the traits of the stereotypical, dominant “alpha,” but to cultivate the traits of the prestigious man. This means developing a skill that brings value to society, and cultivating a stable sense of identity. Such a route will not only make you more attractive to women, but will also create the most satisfying life for yourself in general. In my view, attempting to don the persona of the “alpha” is analogous to building a house of cards. There’s no stable foundation supporting your worth.

It’s time we shed these black and white categories, and embrace a much more multidimensional concept of masculinity. The most attractive male is really a blend of characteristics, including assertiveness, kindness, cultivated skills, and a genuine sense of value in this world. The true alpha is fuller, deeper, and richer.

Really looking forward to AM7 as I'm done with LTU!