This reminds me of a "friend" I used to have. She was highly disorganized and depends on other people to bail her out. I tried to help her in so many ways, so that she could be independent and live a happy life. I offered to give her an alarm clock, got her a cell phone, I offered to give her a washer and dryer, I even offered to let her use my laundry machines to wash her clothes.. She refused all the help other than the cell phone, but then she would want me to give her a ride somewhere when she wouldn't wake up on time and would miss her bus. As if my time wasn't valuable. She just wanted attention and to be cared for. She did this to everyone, and she would try to make up for it by buying them things. I don't think that she realized that this was abuse, she is an abusive person.
I know that it's different with your mom and relatives because of that special bond, but you should never allow anyone to abuse you. You will continue to distance yourself from abusers as you continue to get stronger. You're making great progress, Findingme.
I know that it's different with your mom and relatives because of that special bond, but you should never allow anyone to abuse you. You will continue to distance yourself from abusers as you continue to get stronger. You're making great progress, Findingme.
