I am adding this to my AM journal despite the program being completed because it is related to Mode One that have been exhaustively discussed in the last 2 pages...
I did match with a woman on a dating app... Once the match did occur... I went back to see the girl pics... and meh... they didn't motivate me to initiate convo with her...
She started to chat with me with some small talk... I did reciprocate a bit... After 2-3 msgs exchange, I did ask her what she was up to today. To which she replied that she was relaxing since she was on maternity leave....
I did qualify a little bit more... Single mom or in a complicated relation?
Single mom....
Nah right of the bat.... her situation kinda disqualify her right away but I did remember my recent Mode One book reading and saw this situation as a very good opportunity to put into practice Mode One communication since I had absolutely nothing to lose... I already kinda knew intuitively that pursuing this girl would lead to nowhere.
So I did ask her: What are you looking for here? I am seeking a FWB.
Her: FWB? (Is she dumb or a wholesome pretender?)
Me: Friend With Benefits. IOW a casual sex partner for spending some quality time with her
Her: No sorry
Me: np. Have a nice day and I wish you to find what you are looking for
I'm very happy of the outcome. Nothing bad did happen. She didn't got upset. Even if she did. I wouldn't care but the most important benefit that I got was to cut down very rapidly the waste of time talking with a woman not wanting the same thing than me.
That was an excellent practice!
I did match with a woman on a dating app... Once the match did occur... I went back to see the girl pics... and meh... they didn't motivate me to initiate convo with her...
She started to chat with me with some small talk... I did reciprocate a bit... After 2-3 msgs exchange, I did ask her what she was up to today. To which she replied that she was relaxing since she was on maternity leave....
I did qualify a little bit more... Single mom or in a complicated relation?
Single mom....
Nah right of the bat.... her situation kinda disqualify her right away but I did remember my recent Mode One book reading and saw this situation as a very good opportunity to put into practice Mode One communication since I had absolutely nothing to lose... I already kinda knew intuitively that pursuing this girl would lead to nowhere.
So I did ask her: What are you looking for here? I am seeking a FWB.
Her: FWB? (Is she dumb or a wholesome pretender?)
Me: Friend With Benefits. IOW a casual sex partner for spending some quality time with her
Her: No sorry
Me: np. Have a nice day and I wish you to find what you are looking for
I'm very happy of the outcome. Nothing bad did happen. She didn't got upset. Even if she did. I wouldn't care but the most important benefit that I got was to cut down very rapidly the waste of time talking with a woman not wanting the same thing than me.
That was an excellent practice!
