02-10-2019, 07:37 AM
(02-10-2019, 04:33 AM)Raikahoken Wrote:(02-09-2019, 12:41 AM)DarthXedonias Wrote: Anyway, I would just ask people I have no problem dealing with skepticism or questioning of some of my choices and I would gladly answer them. I would like to however those people actually know about my background by paying attention to what I have actually written in the past or in detail. Either way, I hope that didn't come off as angry though I was annoyed because your post included many assumptions about me (mainly my lack of experience or info with other cultures) that could have been remedied with actually have read my Journal in detail.
It's good to hear you are aware of these issues. Yes I knew there's a possibility you already knew all this. I've read your journal from time to time but didn't really follow it, though I might now. It's just that there are things you wrote in your post which alarmed me:
(02-08-2019, 11:45 AM)DarthXedonias Wrote: Ok, for the long of it. Essentially I have 2 women that in the coming months I will be getting married to and they have both spoken to each other and are ok with the arrangement.
(02-08-2019, 11:45 AM)DarthXedonias Wrote: Anyway, She is pretty much in the bag. So I just need to go visit her once then after that go again for the marriage and everything.
(02-08-2019, 11:45 AM)DarthXedonias Wrote: Anyway, those are the 2 women so far anyway. I could get other women which they both are fine with but I will hold off on that for probably a year or 2. I already have 2 potential meetings and weddings to plan.
(02-08-2019, 11:45 AM)DarthXedonias Wrote: Either way, looks like I have 2 permanent relationships in the bag for now so things have seemed to have been a success.
You sounded very bought in, having never met these women. Like they're already in the bag and you'd just meet them once and then marry them already. You were also thinking about what you'd do after you marry them. It made me think maybe he's not aware what he's getting into. People who are experienced with these types of women and the dating cultures in their countries would usually be more cautious. From my viewpoint I can either keep silent because I didn't have time to read through your journal or I can just say my piece which might potentially help you. Worst that can happen is I annoy you. You know I only want to help which is why you're not angry. My apologies for the annoyance.
I was going to bring up Jeff Bezos's recent divorce (the wife apparently will get $60+ billion) and ask you to be careful with marriage laws. But obviously you've looked into it. If there are places where you can indeed get married where men "actually have the advantage or even playing field", even with multiple wives, I'd really appreciate it if you can share the details. I'm sure everyone here would.
Still, I urge you to date them for some time before marrying them. You need time to really get to know someone and see whether you can stand being in a relationship with them, let alone married to them. I'm not doubting or criticizing you, I just want you to live a happy life. Wish you the best of luck, brother.
Well, thanks for explaining all that. In that case everything is fine then. I will explain further since I really think the difference between what you are seeing and worried about and what I'm seeing is a combination of difference in priorities, "culture" and general outlook. Sigh, I was going to touch on something I didn't mention eventually but I might as well do that now since it will shed a lot more light on this situation. The thing is even though this is vital information to understand all this I want to also be cautious as this dangerously comes a bit too close to Rule#4. So I will just put it in a way so that people reading this will be able to "read between the lines". If my efforts fail though and Ben or Shannon say it might be too detailed to break the rule I will either rewrite it or just delete it entirely.
Mainly within a day or 2 of running the newest version of DMSI I finally came to a decision that funny enough I had been leaning towards for like the last year and half. It makes me believe that all the previous versions of DMSI had made me increasingly think about this but never was powerful enough to make me come to an actual decision because fear was holding me back from doing so. Either way after running the new version I finally was able to give up my old "worldview" ,that my subconscious apparently had decided was keeping me from the goals of the program and presented too many problems, to accept a new "worldview". Of course coincidentally 2 days after this decision, and joining a site for people with this same worldview, I get contacted by an Indonesian women who shares the same worldview and same opinions on a man having multiple women. She contacted me because she agreed with pretty much everything I wrote in my profile.
Shortly after this within days I find the women I had been talking to for quite a while from the Philippines had no problem with the view on having many wives either. I'm sorry, but I'm pretty sure it was the sub at work here. That is way too many "coincidences" within the span of a few days after making a major decision that work in tandem with the goals of the program in a round about way. So, I have decide at this point follow this thing to where it is going to inevitably might lead or just deny any of this and "refuse" to believe this is the sub working. If I do the latter then I will just be like some of those on here who see some of the effects and then decide "Nah, I refuse to believe this is true it doesn't fit in my view of how reality should work". On top of that it would be pretty dumb for me to say I've wanted this type of lifestyle for years then when the opportunity presents itself after trying out the new version "magically" that I just say "Nah, this might present too much problems or something bad might happen so I'm not going to do it".
Don't take that as me being completely reckless though. There is some other things you guys don't know about but rest of assured I have been moving very thoughtfully about this. This isn't my first rodeo in this type of situation (dealing with foreign women anyway). I have dealt with this before besides the times I have mentioned on this site. Anyway, besides all that there have been other changes such as to my demeanor. Quite frankly I woke up one day and I realized what was the one trait I wanted in a partner: Obedience. It would seem that the more dominate side of myself had been let loose and quite frankly I wasn't as ashamed of the fact that I preferred a very submissive women and neither was I afraid of that side of myself any longer. Quite frankly I have gotten tired of being ashamed or fearful of my own sexuality at this point and what actually turns me on because lets face it in the culture I'm currently in it is seen as some kind of cardinal sin if a women actually submits to her male partner, don't even get me started on the fact if the guy actually prefers women like that.
In closing this is the lifestyle I have wanted that would make me happy and I am moving towards that. Does that mean I'm going to be reckless? No, but I'm not going to be kept in check by "fear" to stop from pursuing such a thing either. I've done that for too much of my life and I am tired of it. I'm just going to live my life and let the sub do what its meant to do without me getting in my own way. -heavy Sarcasm- Because hey, getting in my own way and trying to be controlling about everything the sub was trying to do has worked out so great for me in the past.
Oh and one last thing since @Raikahoken wanted to know and some others might. Yes, the divorce laws in the places I will be working at aren't even on a even playing field I would say. They heavily, heavily favor the husband. If I had to sum it up the husband basically gets everything and the wife gets practically nothing. So she has no incentive to initiate an divorce unless its very dire. Compare this to Western or first world countries where women usually initiate 80% of the divorces and most of the time its for very frivolous reasons. So let it be known I did a lot of research before I started any of this and knew a lot about divorces laws in other countries. Even if this did end not so well for some reason, I would basically lose nothing. Matter of fact, as an example in Dubai even if lets say the wife does get custody of say a Son, she can't really get the daughter since to their culture a female can't be left alone with a male not related to her of which a step father would count as that, if the father can prove that the mother is making the Son grow "soft" (read turning into a soyboy or cuck who needs female validation) the father can petition the court and take the son.
"I have no use of disciples. Let everyone be their own true follower" - Nietzsche
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