Shannon's Journal Discussion Volume 3

[SargeMaximus]

That's a good thing man. Insecurity only undermines the quality of the relationship.

I understand that, it's true. What I mean is for the girls that don't speak to you but just get happy when they see you- maybe make them somehow feel like if they dont quickly come over and talk to you now- they will lose a certain something they want forever.

The feminine is all about flow. If they see you and they smile its a great sign of a healthy connection.

In her eyes, if you're a worthy male, she'll feel like you'll be around forever. Its the natural way of things.

Adding in a fear of loss or a certain possessiveness just gets in the way of actually enjoying someone. The real freedom is in exploring a person without any fear or attachment to outcome.

If she finds you to be an enjoyable experience, she'll keep coming back for more. Same applies vice versa.

Edit: I do like the idea of imbuing her with confidence to approach you, that's a healthy positive mindset. I guess what I'm saying is that fear should be absent from the equation.

Maybe not fear but a logical understanding that if she do t act on her desires she’ll lose you.

Confidence is acting on your desires lol.

I’m talking about that thing Shannon talked about where you don’t jump off a building because you know (instead of fear) that you will die. Same principle. Confidence is good too but there does have to be a consequence to not getting with the user.