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(10-01-2018, 10:02 AM)lano1106 Wrote:(10-01-2018, 08:46 AM)SargeMaximus Wrote:(10-01-2018, 06:15 AM)lano1106 Wrote: I have red Olivia Fox Cabana book. imho, it is a very good book to have a better intuition on how to be charismatic.
Yeah it's gold. Ironically, one of the most effective exercises I've used from the book is the "Responsibility Transfer". Essentially, you make everything something else's responsibility, not yours. Frees up a ton of energy.
hmmm. that is curious... if you can, please tell me which page this exercise is... Out of context, it seems to go against the conventional wisdom that says to take responsibility to what happens to you to develop a sense of control over your life.
The closest that I remember out of my mind to what you describe was the exercise where you diffuse the uniqueness of the problem to everyone else.
If you feel that you have a unique problem that no one else ever had, it feels like a big problem. To the contrary, if you talk to you into thinking that it is an ordinary problem that everyone has experienced one time or the other, it makes you feel the challenge that you are facing much smaller...
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