07-13-2018, 02:50 PM
(07-13-2018, 11:25 AM)Antaeus Wrote: OK so I’m starting to have some thoughts here. Essentially I could really consider myself lucky because I don’t have family and friends that pressure me to do certain things by a certain time, let me explain what I mean by this. So I’m in a circumstance where my 20s Have basically passed me by. It is often said the by 30 one should be married and have kids, be established and the like. Now I agree with the being Established part but not necessarily being married and having kids Or basically just stop living your life. This is probably part of the reason I’ve been feeling so depressed the last few days.
I think I understand what it is that I need to do. I need to stop letting other people write my story. I need to stop believing all the ***** about how I’m supposed to be married already or have already done this or that by this age. I Turn 30 years old tomorrow and unfortunately I’m already having many regrets about my life and having regrets about basically wasting my 20s. I know it’s my mistake. But I feel like this is the time to start catching up and truly living life before I would ever think about settling down.
Don’t get me wrong I’m not against marriage or anything but I just think there’s so much in life I need to experience before I make such a permanent decision to where I won’t be able to experience anything anymore. Truthfully I even have other people telling me this. That I’m really not that old, that I still have time. So the way I see it I set my own deadlines.
I completely get where you're coming from. I'm 31 and recently split up from my long term fiance of over 6 years. I now feel like a large part of my life was wasted and I should of been settled down at my age. However I am coming round that it's not that bad and I don't need to rush, that it's ok to wait another few years before I shall get married, kids etc. All it means is i'll be slightly older as a dad but it's not as big of a deal as I used to see it, not when you really think about it. If I had one chance to do everything again or give advice to anyone younger, it's definitely don't think about settling down until you're at least 30. Not just because there's so much to do but also because there really is no need. Everyone still changes as a person a LOT until around 30, when it will slow down slightly. A lot of people in relationships at a young age find that those two people change so much and they either end up as I am now or worse, they get stuck and stay in that relationship for far too long/forever.
So yeah, don't worry about it man, they're right when they say you still have time, just enjoy it now that you're in a much more stable part of your life.
