03-09-2012, 06:31 PM
So that post got me thinking Shannon. I've got to do some work on this consciously and set out some sort of plan to start to move in the direction I need to go in.
So points I need to address and have started addressing
1. Move out of my parents place: I'm starting work on that image i talked about earlier as well as that I have to come up with some ideas of things to do in the evenings to keep me out of the house and also going away on holiday will assist here. First off I go to a mens group once a week on a tuesday night as well as catching up weekly on a Sunday, I also go out every friday and saturday night (Although I have to cut back on the drinking on these nights). More ideas to come around hobbies etc. Difficulty with this one is i'm such an introvert at the moment, so internally focused.
2. Move on from needing to be with my ex: Now this one is interesting something just came to mind today just a sudden thought. I love her unconditionally so why do I need to be with her. This thought took away from the need and the expectation of an outcome as I believe with unconditional love you expect nothing in return and so are free of worry around it. This has so far taken away from the anxiety and the depression surrounding it.
3. Start working towards other ideas to make money: For this I need to start working on my affiliate site. Now I know what to do here its just a matter of doing it.
4. Avoidance: This is going to be hard to deal with. Sleeping and playing games on my phone are avoidance. As well as the amount of time I spend on here. Being consciously aware and correcting myself when this comes up may be the way to go
5. Weight loss (fat more to the point) : Now i'm going along the right track but I have adjustments to make. I drink two mochas a day which I need to change to black coffee and get back to the gym an extra 3 days a week. Which will also tie back into point number one.
So that's what I need to do to get me out of this feeling of being inbetween a rock and a hard place. Slow subtle changes should make them achievable.
So points I need to address and have started addressing
1. Move out of my parents place: I'm starting work on that image i talked about earlier as well as that I have to come up with some ideas of things to do in the evenings to keep me out of the house and also going away on holiday will assist here. First off I go to a mens group once a week on a tuesday night as well as catching up weekly on a Sunday, I also go out every friday and saturday night (Although I have to cut back on the drinking on these nights). More ideas to come around hobbies etc. Difficulty with this one is i'm such an introvert at the moment, so internally focused.
2. Move on from needing to be with my ex: Now this one is interesting something just came to mind today just a sudden thought. I love her unconditionally so why do I need to be with her. This thought took away from the need and the expectation of an outcome as I believe with unconditional love you expect nothing in return and so are free of worry around it. This has so far taken away from the anxiety and the depression surrounding it.
3. Start working towards other ideas to make money: For this I need to start working on my affiliate site. Now I know what to do here its just a matter of doing it.
4. Avoidance: This is going to be hard to deal with. Sleeping and playing games on my phone are avoidance. As well as the amount of time I spend on here. Being consciously aware and correcting myself when this comes up may be the way to go
5. Weight loss (fat more to the point) : Now i'm going along the right track but I have adjustments to make. I drink two mochas a day which I need to change to black coffee and get back to the gym an extra 3 days a week. Which will also tie back into point number one.
So that's what I need to do to get me out of this feeling of being inbetween a rock and a hard place. Slow subtle changes should make them achievable.
The only person in life that can ever hold you back is yourself. So get out of your own way and start living the life you always dreamed of
