Magnus' journal

[Shannon]

So i'm now off review at work and my boss is saying how much potential I have and how well I've been doing lately. Hes also been coming to me for management advice as well.

I do have a question though Shannon for the last few weeks I have had this image popping up in my head quite often. It scares me like nothing has ever scared me before. It is a image that came up from when I listen to a guided imagery exercise around abandonment. This is something I don't know how to deal with, its that scary. Its a baby alone in a dark room with no one around. Any suggestions on how I deal with this one Shannon? It scares me more than anything ever has before and its been coming up a lot over the last few weeks

That is definitely something I can relate to. When I was very young... maybe two years old... I had a situation that happened that scared me (and scarred me) deeply concerning that sort of thing.

The image deals with you as helpless (baby), being alone, and dealing with the unknown (the dark). Very scary indeed. The way I would deal with it is as follows:

In your mind's eye, when you imagine this scenario, intentionally take control of the imagining. First, turn the lights on, and have them reveal a comforting atmosphere, where... second, you are not alone! And third, have the baby rapidly grow to an age where it is possible for him to take care of himself, and then see him successfully and confidently doing exactly that.

Next, another thing you can do is remind yourself that what has happened in the past is done and gone, and that it is time to deal with and release it.

Do those every time you experience that image, and over time, it will lose it's fear factor.