Magnus' journal

[Shannon]

It is an absolute mess and for someone coming from a bad place it makes it even harder I know I found it hard to determine what works from what doesn't then the fears of spending a long time on something and it not doing a thing. For a long time I myself jumped from one thing to another (NLP actually being one of the worst) but I've now settled on my therapist, your stuff and a bit of cory's work.

What happened with NLP to make you say that?

I also believe that the PUA community throws a spanner into the works and I know from experience it doesn't deal with some of the underlying issues someone has so thats why most don't see the results that they are after. If anything this sub has given me a different road to walk. Working from the inside out and making it about me instead of women. Its actually quite sad how much I used to make it about women.

It seems to me that the PUA community is messing guys up. Not only on putting too much focus on sex and not enough on relationships including sex, but in that half of them are in it for the money, and haven't mastered it, and don't teach things that are useful, healthy, effective, take your pick. It's also making it harder to approach women because women are becoming more guarded and resistant because of these PUA techniques, in some cases. And you're right... they don't deal with underlying causes, because in many cases, that would be too much work.

And yes... it is about you instead of women. Growth for yourself is the only growth that makes the difference in this case. Women cannot be your reason, or your goal, while you're dealing with this change.