(02-02-2018, 01:28 AM)ShanghaiKiwi Wrote:(01-31-2018, 11:36 AM)Kol Wrote: First post full edit and then title.
Thanks! Got it, adjusted title to the correct sub.
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Yeah so tonight I was at dance practise and we were doing an excercise learning how to lead and follow, the girl I was dancing with flirted with me and said with a wink, "you can make me do anything you want!" (its funny because as a lead, I dictate her dance moves - but she wasn't talking about dancing here).
I didn't expect it and didn't really know how to handle it so I just laughed and joked "within limits of course!" and she said something about me not leading her off cliffs, which kind of nullified the sexuality of the comment, I think. Perhaps she retracted her outrageously flirty comment because I didn't respond as sexually as she had hoped?
On the one hand I'm super happy because of the flirting, on the other hand I'm disappointed with myself for not escalating it. I should have said something about stopping by at the hardware store after class to pick up some rope and cable ties. Its a 50 shades reference.
So I'm making definite progress - I'm actually getting women flirting with me lol, thats a good sign. But I definitely haven't arrived yet, I have a long way to go. For one I wasn't bold enough to match her flirting, also I clearly still give too much of a shit because here I am writing about it on the internet more than two hours later lol.
Things have been noticeably different with women recently. They're always happy to see me (except a few snobs, but **** them) and they often want my attention. Its new and I love it. I'm not used to it. It doesn't hurt that my dancing skills are improving but its more my confidence and the way I hold myself. I stopped caring about getting a gf or going on dates, and now I'm making friends with all these beautiful women. You might think thats normal, but I'm a guy who hardly had any conversations with women at all for 12 years while I was in a religious cult (besides being married, but that sucked, there was definitely no flirting) and I suffered from *really* awkward social anxiety. Just late last year I was stuttering whenever talking to pretty women and they didn't really seem to notice me, it so much different now after only a month of the sub. I'm super happy about it and wish I did it years ago.
*Edit: Just realised the girl who flirted with me tonight was the same one I ate dinner with in the first post of this thread
Hi there! I like your journal, it made me think of running ASC some time in the future. Sounds like you are getting some good effects confidence wise, but still keeping it at a balanced level and not going overboard and becoming a jerk - this is that make me interested in the product
About the flirting thing, you are probably right that she re-directed her comment after your response. Flirting is a game as you probably are aware of, and you need to give her some nudge to play with, when you are responding, but now you "closed" the game when you responded directly. It's like roleplay, it need to be kept on a playful level. But don't do anything you don't feel like saying - i.e. don't force anything. A good response would be (in a playful manner) - "well let's get to my place and dance some salsa with liten candles all night then?" - you get what I am saying right? Hehe. Don't feel bad for writing about it, and not for not "acing it". Practice make it perfect, you just need to discover your own playful and teasing side
Anyhow, it's amazing to read about your progress and how long you come!
