Raykon's Self Esteem 5.5g Journal

[SargeMaximus]

Telling the second chick that your date flaked as a prelude is, in female-speak, telling her, "You aren't my first choice to hang out with, but since I can't hang with who I really want to hang with, you'll do."

Very bad approach. Telling a woman you're dating others is one thing. Telling her she's an acceptable substitute for who you really wanted to spend time with is bad juju.

You may be right but in this situation it worked. I wasn't rude about it i was just being honest. Honesty is good isn't it?

Lol, this is what I'm hung up on these days.

I could rant for days on this, but I won't.

You guys, seriously? If you don't understand what I just said, it's no wonder you're having trouble with women. Honesty is great, but you have to know when you're speaking male-speak and when you need to speak female-speak. It's not about what you say, it's about what they understand you to have said. If in male-speak you are "being honest" and in female speak you are telling her she's a second rate option, then you may have had the best intentions, but you also shot yourself in the foot because of what she understood, regardless of what you said or meant.

Ah *light bulb moment* Thanks Shannon.

Note to self: learn female-speak.