Yea I think the lack of choosing is a motivational issue.. and deserving issue. I'm still have tendencies to make excuses when it comes to pursueing and or playing it cool around a woman I want. It's surrounded by confusion really because it may be a lack of faith on my part. I guess I still feel like things have to be complicated.
As far as anxiety... I do not have butterflies anymore but anxiety is alot of things. Like... worrying about the future or dwelling on the past is all forms of anxiety including not living in the moment. I can definitly be more present because.. I guess I have tendencies to freeze up when speaking with beautiful women still and what happens is my mind is no longer with hers but thinking about how she is perceiving me in that moment. I basically stop breathing because I freeze up. So that still needs to be fixed.
And I don't approach. I don't like it. When I do it it puts me in the pursuing mind set and I'm letting all of that go now.
To add.. if I approach it's only because the situation calls for it... and a casual conversation usually arises from that. But I'm not going to go out to a club just to meet woman and approach them. That's a no no.
EDIT: also another thing about the anxiety I experience. It's usually when I feel like I need to push things forward. I begin to think how I can do this... which I've been told is not the right mindset.
As far as anxiety... I do not have butterflies anymore but anxiety is alot of things. Like... worrying about the future or dwelling on the past is all forms of anxiety including not living in the moment. I can definitly be more present because.. I guess I have tendencies to freeze up when speaking with beautiful women still and what happens is my mind is no longer with hers but thinking about how she is perceiving me in that moment. I basically stop breathing because I freeze up. So that still needs to be fixed.
And I don't approach. I don't like it. When I do it it puts me in the pursuing mind set and I'm letting all of that go now.
To add.. if I approach it's only because the situation calls for it... and a casual conversation usually arises from that. But I'm not going to go out to a club just to meet woman and approach them. That's a no no.
EDIT: also another thing about the anxiety I experience. It's usually when I feel like I need to push things forward. I begin to think how I can do this... which I've been told is not the right mindset.
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