DMSI Journal

[Purple Jade]

Don’t really know what happened. Got ditched without any reason for the second date. There was constant communication during the week, and he would even explain and apologised if he was radio silent for longer than a few hours due to work commitments without me asking anything. There were still texts to indicate the date would be carrying on this morning, then he has been radio silent for the past 8 hours which has passed the planned pickup time. oh well, it’s out of his character, but I guess it’s easier just to disappear.

Here's a male perspective on this. It could be fear.

From my own experience, after the first date, meeting a woman somehow becomes more and more emotionally difficult, especially if touchy-feely stuff hasn't happened much yet. This goes for the first date even, but it's more pronounced after, for some reason. After setting up the date logistics and confirming that it's happening, I get thoughts like "I hope something happens, and this whole thing gets cancelled." One time, I even pretended to be sick and tried to cancel a date, but she was more persistent that me and she brought soup to my place We had even slept together at that point... but fear is just insane sometimes...

So, it could have been a case of that. Out of fear, he just bailed. It could also have been something completely different, of course.

Thank you.

Yep, he decided to contact me today and told me he was “tired and sick”. I said to him that i know the physical attraction was there but if he wasn’t really into me, it’s ok. We can both move on and I don’t like playing games. He then went silent again. I was actually quite surprised that I was firm and direct, which is not like the old me - my old self would always give second chances or would think things would eventually work towards my favour if I let it continue. I’d say this is DMSI changing me and I like the firm and IDGAF attitude.