08-18-2017, 01:46 AM
(08-17-2017, 03:25 PM)RTBoss Wrote: Thanks for sharing all of that. I can relate to a lot of it, actually. It actually provides me another perspective, as I'm a dad, and it's good to have a reminder that what you say to your kids really sticks. One of my biggest fears is doing or saying things that damage them long term, or inadvertently cause them to self-sabotage, have emotional issues, etc.
I really couldn't give my dad a very good grade on being a father, and especially for being a role model (always closed off, angry, resentful, won't speak, etc), but I've come to realize that he did what he could. Its only in these last few years and months that I think I've faced and (partially) overcome some of the causes behind that behavior as its manifesting in me, and I think he might only be starting the process a bit now. The point is, I guess the best you can do is try to heal & clear as much of yourself as you can, cause that kinda sets the baseline of how good you can be. (Imo of course, just trying to be encouraging/empowering.)
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