Magnus' journal

[Patti]

Hi Jim,

I think that when we make a decision to end a relationship in our minds, our hearts are not always going to follow suit. Unfortunately, we tend to forget the bad times or push them away and dwell of the good times, and that can make it harder to do what we know is right for us. Ending a relationship is a loss and we need time to grieve it as a loss. I have 4 kids who are all for the most part, more comfortable being in a relationship with one person than dating a few. They’ve all had break ups that were hard but what I told them is that it takes almost as long to get over someone as it does to fall for them. In some instances, it also took the other person to help each other get through it, which may be why you reached out to her. In your mind, she was your best friend and that’s not an easy thing to give up. But when those best friends don’t bring out the best in you or inspire you to be a better person, the best thing to do sometimes is let them go and learn from the experience, as hard as that may be. Stay strong and keep listening!