So I'm trying to remember what the hell I was talking about when I posted that Saturday morning. But come Saturday night I was more responsible in how much I drank and I didn't smoke any drugs. I had some of my friends mixed drinks and 2 or 3 beers so I had a nice little buzz going. I also drank a vitamin B12 loaded Naked Juice. It was delicious and it gave me a great energy boost and got me excited for the night.
I went out expecting nothing but I wanted to invite girls back to my buddies place because we were going to have a champagne after party (got the idea from Brent Smith). but let's forget about that for a second.
I was at this one bar going back and forth looking for a friend because our pack had seperated completely all over downtown Savannah by now. I was walking out of a bar and as I was doing this I was looking back behind me to check out some of the surroundings before chilling outside. I saw 2 girls out of the corner of my eye move around a corner coming towards me but we did not make any eye contact. for whatever reason I told myself holy crap they are super hot but they're not all caught up with themselves trying to impress with the way they dress or how they act. These girls seem pretty cool. At this point all I just tell myself "This should be fun to talk to them.. I'll just wait outside a minute in the pathway of the door and just chill out with a beer. Within a minute of me going outside they came out the door and right before they crossed paths with me I just said hey there come over here I want to talk to you." They turned around when I said I want to talk to you. turns out one of the girls was with a dude.. but he went straight to the bar. These girls came over to me and I just started talking to them. Technically they approached me but I had to flag them down. I find this to be much MUCH easier if you are a dude that hates actually approaching girls like me. So I basically forced them to approach me if that makes sense. Anyways long story short within 2 or 3 minutes I could have kissed this one girl but I didn't because as soon as the time came butterflies consumed my stomach. Dammit Anxiety! It sucks because I didn't even want to let myself fail with this girl. It was pathetic. BUT at the exact same time it felt good because I know that getting women to approach me and just talking to them is simple. The problem is keeping the vibe and just letting it go. I may have let my "power" slip away as soon as I thought about "is this where I start making out with her? or should I say I want to make out with her.. I don't know.. oh wait now I'm looking like a fool because I'm stuttering and not even saying a word."
Either way.. if I totally cave manned it it would have been beautiful because the connection I had with this girl was so hot. Instead of all this though.. I should have just played it cool and simple.. talked with them for about a minute.. and then casually invite them to the party and leave it at that. The only "flirting" I did was with my eye contact.
so after that I just played some pool.. talked to some friends. I didn't approach or talk to any other women.. UNTIL
Later that evening a buddy and I met back up with 2 people from our crew at a local gas station along the strip of bars. This place is very well kempt and is a frequent stomping ground of many college kids. I wanted breakfast so I got in line by myself. It was a fairly long line so I just stood there and posted up. 3 girls came through the automatic doors and I made quick eye contact with them.. nothing special.. maybe 1-2 seconds. then I looked around just checking out the surroundings and then they were 10 feet infront of me.. I made solid eye contact with the girl that was nearest to me and as soon as they got in line behind me I just said "Hello Ladies" "how are you doing?" And then they just started chatting my head off.. 2 of them anyways. The hottest one just kept laughing at my jokes. We talked for about 15 minutes.. I didn't flirt with them at all.. maybe except for the fact I got 2 of them to kiss each other for some reason.. I don't remember why. Anyways my buddy saw them and I guess tried to come over and help me and be a wing man.. and get them to come over to our champagne after party but he was pushing it way too hard. Eventually drove these girls away so whatever. I became more of a man on Saturday Night.. now I just need to push through this anxiety. If I had to use one phrase.. I would say pulling the trigger. I've wanted to do this direct game on the first girl in the 3rd paragraph but I couldn't even tell her what I wanted to do to her.. now I don't think it's being afraid of intimacy.. it is from (i think) afraid of confrontation with a woman and dealing with their emotions or just being player hated. In fact.. I had dudes that night try and put me down but it just bounced right off me. But with women.. it's like.. I'm afraid of what might happen.. like they would try to humiliate me or something.. and as rock solid as my frame is I should just allow myself to do these things.. who the fuck cares. This weekend I'm going to do the whole post up by a pillar thing... gaze into woman's souls and flag them down so they have to approach me.
I'm going to run OAA after sm and hopefully since the word anxiety is prominant in the script it will not only be addressing approach anxiety but it will cover all anxiety in general. To add, hopefully this totally fixes me and my hesitation.
What do you think Shannon? Does OAA cover all anxiety in general since you say the subconcious mind takes things literally?
I went out expecting nothing but I wanted to invite girls back to my buddies place because we were going to have a champagne after party (got the idea from Brent Smith). but let's forget about that for a second.
I was at this one bar going back and forth looking for a friend because our pack had seperated completely all over downtown Savannah by now. I was walking out of a bar and as I was doing this I was looking back behind me to check out some of the surroundings before chilling outside. I saw 2 girls out of the corner of my eye move around a corner coming towards me but we did not make any eye contact. for whatever reason I told myself holy crap they are super hot but they're not all caught up with themselves trying to impress with the way they dress or how they act. These girls seem pretty cool. At this point all I just tell myself "This should be fun to talk to them.. I'll just wait outside a minute in the pathway of the door and just chill out with a beer. Within a minute of me going outside they came out the door and right before they crossed paths with me I just said hey there come over here I want to talk to you." They turned around when I said I want to talk to you. turns out one of the girls was with a dude.. but he went straight to the bar. These girls came over to me and I just started talking to them. Technically they approached me but I had to flag them down. I find this to be much MUCH easier if you are a dude that hates actually approaching girls like me. So I basically forced them to approach me if that makes sense. Anyways long story short within 2 or 3 minutes I could have kissed this one girl but I didn't because as soon as the time came butterflies consumed my stomach. Dammit Anxiety! It sucks because I didn't even want to let myself fail with this girl. It was pathetic. BUT at the exact same time it felt good because I know that getting women to approach me and just talking to them is simple. The problem is keeping the vibe and just letting it go. I may have let my "power" slip away as soon as I thought about "is this where I start making out with her? or should I say I want to make out with her.. I don't know.. oh wait now I'm looking like a fool because I'm stuttering and not even saying a word."
Either way.. if I totally cave manned it it would have been beautiful because the connection I had with this girl was so hot. Instead of all this though.. I should have just played it cool and simple.. talked with them for about a minute.. and then casually invite them to the party and leave it at that. The only "flirting" I did was with my eye contact.
so after that I just played some pool.. talked to some friends. I didn't approach or talk to any other women.. UNTIL
Later that evening a buddy and I met back up with 2 people from our crew at a local gas station along the strip of bars. This place is very well kempt and is a frequent stomping ground of many college kids. I wanted breakfast so I got in line by myself. It was a fairly long line so I just stood there and posted up. 3 girls came through the automatic doors and I made quick eye contact with them.. nothing special.. maybe 1-2 seconds. then I looked around just checking out the surroundings and then they were 10 feet infront of me.. I made solid eye contact with the girl that was nearest to me and as soon as they got in line behind me I just said "Hello Ladies" "how are you doing?" And then they just started chatting my head off.. 2 of them anyways. The hottest one just kept laughing at my jokes. We talked for about 15 minutes.. I didn't flirt with them at all.. maybe except for the fact I got 2 of them to kiss each other for some reason.. I don't remember why. Anyways my buddy saw them and I guess tried to come over and help me and be a wing man.. and get them to come over to our champagne after party but he was pushing it way too hard. Eventually drove these girls away so whatever. I became more of a man on Saturday Night.. now I just need to push through this anxiety. If I had to use one phrase.. I would say pulling the trigger. I've wanted to do this direct game on the first girl in the 3rd paragraph but I couldn't even tell her what I wanted to do to her.. now I don't think it's being afraid of intimacy.. it is from (i think) afraid of confrontation with a woman and dealing with their emotions or just being player hated. In fact.. I had dudes that night try and put me down but it just bounced right off me. But with women.. it's like.. I'm afraid of what might happen.. like they would try to humiliate me or something.. and as rock solid as my frame is I should just allow myself to do these things.. who the fuck cares. This weekend I'm going to do the whole post up by a pillar thing... gaze into woman's souls and flag them down so they have to approach me.
I'm going to run OAA after sm and hopefully since the word anxiety is prominant in the script it will not only be addressing approach anxiety but it will cover all anxiety in general. To add, hopefully this totally fixes me and my hesitation.
What do you think Shannon? Does OAA cover all anxiety in general since you say the subconcious mind takes things literally?
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"If at first glance it may appear too hard, look again. Always look again." - Unknown
If you would like to get in touch with me, please send me an email.
