Overblown Hyperbole - DMSI V3.1-A

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When you look in the mirror, you don't wait for your reflection to smile before you do. You smile, and your reflection complies by smiling also. It's not "I'm going to believe no weeds into existence when there are no weeds by saying there are no weeds". It's "I now become and make myself the person who experiences a complete lack of weeds." and the weeds will find a way to disappear.

While I personally jive with most of what you're saying, Shannon, I think using weeds as an analogy (which was originally brought up by CatMan) is flawed to begin with. "The weeds will find a way to disappear" assumes the weeds are capable of disappearing without outside intervention, which very many people experience as false. Weeds by their nature multiply without outside intervention, and it is almost always by outside intervention that they disappear.

"I now become and make myself the person who experiences a complete lack of weeds" is great, but for weeds to disappear one needs to take the appropriate and focused actions towards that end. I personally believe this is why people jump on CatMan - while CatMan is taking some action they (and sometimes I as well) believe he's not doing enough of the appropriate and focused actions towards that end and sometimes have trouble putting into words that sentiment.

CatMan, I believe you are taking action as you say and very likely others believe that as well, but it's the taking of appropriate and focused actions towards those ends that I and probably others as well are concerned about. Meeting new people and asking women out is fine and I feel is indeed a great direction to go in; it's the other stuff like intentional physical escalation and more sexual conversations and vibe on your end that we're likely suggesting and/or recommending you increase and do more of. This can be done without consciously seeing the abundance beforehand. Do the thing, and if you get a positive response great, and if not be like "ok" and shrug your shoulders and return to the convo with others or whatever you were doing before as if it's "no biggie." This is probably what Shannon means by the following:

YOU are what you see being REFLECTED BACK TO YOU by what you perceive as "outside yourself".

When you look in the mirror, you don't wait for your reflection to smile before you do. You smile, and your reflection complies by smiling also.