04-06-2017, 11:47 AM
Hey CatMan,
I have been reading your journal for quite some time and as Duke mentioned I also think you have made quite a lot of changes recently. I like how you post pretty positive and constructive feedbacks to others journals as well.
What I wanted to ask you is, have you ever really tried to write down in a very detailed and illustrative way how you will be getting laid for the first time? You fantasize a number of girls, have you really thought what has to happen to have sex with them?
Reason I am asking this is from your last post I have an impression that you somehow are lagging the ability to read the hints and cues from the girls who are interested in, or your ability to dig deeper and find the truth if they are really up for having sex? I can relate to this from my experience of having sex the very first time. It was kind of forced by the girl to make me have sex with her. If she wouldn't have done it I probably wouldn't have done it either at that time.
I have seen the same kind of hesitation in girls who are very young or have had very few sexual encounters. They somehow don't know how to push things forward even though they might be really interested in having sex deep down.
I might be wrong, but I think you have a very limited pattern in your mind in terms of things to happen and/or sequence of things before you actually have sex. Maybe a lot of verbal and physical hints from the girl that she is interested, a number of dates, kiss on one date, second base on other and then the final act on the third date. Kind of things we see in the romantic movies. In real life sex can happen within 10 minutes of actually meeting the person for the very first time or it can actually happen in few months. Of course there are lot of variables, including yourself.
Though I have only heard about it - they say if you start writing stories in the most vivid and detailed manner, your mind starts building familiarities in real life as well. Maybe you just want to give it a try as well? I am pretty sure doing this you will really come across a lot of limiting beliefs or thoughts, for example you would be writing a fantasy like "So as I enter this super market, I see this really hot chic right in front of me. And you know that DMSI bubble? Man I experienced it the first time. Time just stopped and it was me and her in that bubble. She keeps staring at me and I keep moving closer to her. And before you know it, I pull her in by my hand on the back of her head and go for a hot passionate kiss. Damn. What I just did? Is she gonna slap me or something. Nope. She looks completely drunk on my sexiness. I take it as a yes sign and take her out of the market back to my car" And imagining all of this your mind is going to start throwing in a lot of if and butts and nots. Well then at least you will have really something to find out talking to others or reading other journals whether such things are possible or not. And then try to internalize those possibilities. Start using them in your stories more and more.
And why just stop there. If you see other possibilities like this girl with a kid who wants to meet you up - just start analyzing that if you go in for sex whats your best way out without getting stuck with a new family? Maybe just use a condom or pull out before you finish. Things might be a lot more simpler than you think CatMan.
I have been reading your journal for quite some time and as Duke mentioned I also think you have made quite a lot of changes recently. I like how you post pretty positive and constructive feedbacks to others journals as well.
What I wanted to ask you is, have you ever really tried to write down in a very detailed and illustrative way how you will be getting laid for the first time? You fantasize a number of girls, have you really thought what has to happen to have sex with them?
Reason I am asking this is from your last post I have an impression that you somehow are lagging the ability to read the hints and cues from the girls who are interested in, or your ability to dig deeper and find the truth if they are really up for having sex? I can relate to this from my experience of having sex the very first time. It was kind of forced by the girl to make me have sex with her. If she wouldn't have done it I probably wouldn't have done it either at that time.
I have seen the same kind of hesitation in girls who are very young or have had very few sexual encounters. They somehow don't know how to push things forward even though they might be really interested in having sex deep down.
I might be wrong, but I think you have a very limited pattern in your mind in terms of things to happen and/or sequence of things before you actually have sex. Maybe a lot of verbal and physical hints from the girl that she is interested, a number of dates, kiss on one date, second base on other and then the final act on the third date. Kind of things we see in the romantic movies. In real life sex can happen within 10 minutes of actually meeting the person for the very first time or it can actually happen in few months. Of course there are lot of variables, including yourself.
Though I have only heard about it - they say if you start writing stories in the most vivid and detailed manner, your mind starts building familiarities in real life as well. Maybe you just want to give it a try as well? I am pretty sure doing this you will really come across a lot of limiting beliefs or thoughts, for example you would be writing a fantasy like "So as I enter this super market, I see this really hot chic right in front of me. And you know that DMSI bubble? Man I experienced it the first time. Time just stopped and it was me and her in that bubble. She keeps staring at me and I keep moving closer to her. And before you know it, I pull her in by my hand on the back of her head and go for a hot passionate kiss. Damn. What I just did? Is she gonna slap me or something. Nope. She looks completely drunk on my sexiness. I take it as a yes sign and take her out of the market back to my car" And imagining all of this your mind is going to start throwing in a lot of if and butts and nots. Well then at least you will have really something to find out talking to others or reading other journals whether such things are possible or not. And then try to internalize those possibilities. Start using them in your stories more and more.
And why just stop there. If you see other possibilities like this girl with a kid who wants to meet you up - just start analyzing that if you go in for sex whats your best way out without getting stuck with a new family? Maybe just use a condom or pull out before you finish. Things might be a lot more simpler than you think CatMan.
