04-02-2017, 10:16 PM
Context of the breakup is that she tried to close the open relationship twice. Here's what I messaged a friend earlier:
Seemed to me that she's trying to keep me as an orbiter, continuing to invest in her emotionally. She senses that I'm a high value male, rising in status FAST. And she's trying to strap me down and keep me invested while she gets closer with another man. Nope. I'm going to be the bigger man here. Her long term happiness is more important to me than getting laid. What's even more important is what I am willing to put up with in exchange for a relationship.
She accused me of many things when I told her I'm not going to consider moving in together if we are not in a relationship, and that I am no longer taking her out of town in 3 weeks. Unless she wants to pay 50%
I really didn't take kindly to that. Especially not after the painful decision I made for her benefit. Lol. So, it's over. And I won't give friendship a shot until a few days, when things have had time to cool off.
Suggestions on what to do by Shannon are welcome, but I kindly ask others to not provide suggestions. Comments, and discussion are encouraged, however.
Quote:All good. Trigger has been pulled too many times over the past week. It had to be done for good and all. She pulled the "you can't get physical with other women" card. Since she insisted on that despite the open relationship, I brought it to a close. And not for selfish reasons either. She found a guy her age, and she started having feelings for him. I asked her explicitly if what we have was getting in the way of moving forward with him. She said yes.
With that being the case, respecting her boundaries of only wanting one sexual partner at a time, and her mate only having one partner at a time. .... it is wiser to cancel our relationship altogether, rather than trying to sway her to my position of non monogamy.
But she ended up accusing me of shit that pissed me off. Yo, I did this for her, to be happy with someone who can provide her with what she needs. She then accused me of using her for sex. I dunno. I'm hurt, but not too bad.
She did say something about me this weekend though. She said I'm becoming dark.
Seemed to me that she's trying to keep me as an orbiter, continuing to invest in her emotionally. She senses that I'm a high value male, rising in status FAST. And she's trying to strap me down and keep me invested while she gets closer with another man. Nope. I'm going to be the bigger man here. Her long term happiness is more important to me than getting laid. What's even more important is what I am willing to put up with in exchange for a relationship.
She accused me of many things when I told her I'm not going to consider moving in together if we are not in a relationship, and that I am no longer taking her out of town in 3 weeks. Unless she wants to pay 50%
I really didn't take kindly to that. Especially not after the painful decision I made for her benefit. Lol. So, it's over. And I won't give friendship a shot until a few days, when things have had time to cool off.
Suggestions on what to do by Shannon are welcome, but I kindly ask others to not provide suggestions. Comments, and discussion are encouraged, however.
