03-19-2017, 11:23 AM
(03-18-2017, 09:22 PM)sw72hw Wrote: Hey Athena,
I normally don't write in other people's journal, but your experience was so terrible that I can't help myself, but to write a response.
First of all, I am so sorry to hear that you went though that terrible incident. I'm gonna say a few things about the guy.
1. If he actually thought that he was going to impress you by showing you how well he can **** the coworker, he's an idiot. Or at least, he has no clue about you and your personality. So yeah, screw him.
2. If he intended to make you feel hurt, it's even worse, and it also indicates that he's not a real man. He's an insecure and scared boy, who needs to get validated from someone else, and can't take rejection. So yeah, he's definitely nowhere near good enough for you.
Either way, he's definitely not for you, and you want/need a better man. In a way, it's good that you found out before things actually started, but I'm sorry that you found out it in a rather horrible way.
The incident also reminds me of something that a guy once said. The guy said that women have difficult times too (in terms of dating and finding love). If a woman is attractive, many times, if not most of the times, she's gonna be haunted by guys, but only going to be seen as a sexual object, and her personality and other traits get ignored. If a woman is not attractive, many times, if not most of the times, she's going be ignored by guys, and will be pretty much be non-existent for them. They both suck, and thinking about this makes me feel terrible, and even hurtful at times.
I suppose your experience is a bit different, but it nonetheless reminded me of this.
Again, I'm sorry that you had to go through that crap. I hope that you recover soon and find the romantic lover you've been looking for.
It tends to be more like the wanting sex one.
Sometimes with offline guys I get ignored although I DO on occasion catch a guy on the train staring at me!
But unfortunately, I've even been on two dates with guys from online but we had a meal date and in BOTH cases they ended up suddenly masturbating in their car and begging me for sex!!! (Which they DID NOT get!) i was puzzled cos I was dressed VERY conservatively and I don't think I did anything sexual on the date! I kissed one of them when we went for a walk past these canals, but just kissed! He started it! And with the other one I did NOTHING, didn't even touch his hand, no innuendo, long skirt, long top, it's a mystery!!
