Magnus' journal

[Shannon]

I went through almost exactly the same length and intensity of relationship with a BPD woman also, and I was co-dependent at the time too. People who have BPD have no self image... they latch on to someone else for that, which is why she immediately got back into a relationship. It really blew me away when my ex told me she was engaged two months after I left her, and married a month later. I spent four years doing everything in my power to make her my wife, but in the end, I couldn't fix her and I couldn't trust her. So she got her marriage, and I got destroyed by the apparent betrayal... but I honestly think that BPD people just don't connect emotionally the same way the rest of us do. For them, it's an overriding and obsessive need to fill that void within them concerning self identity.