01-12-2017, 10:47 PM
(01-12-2017, 10:33 PM)Aventus45 Wrote:(01-12-2017, 10:28 PM)Shannon Wrote:(01-12-2017, 10:14 PM)Aventus45 Wrote: Day 40
I ***** C with a half limp dick. I was super nervous and I sabotaged myself by fapping earlier in the day. The entire day I was anxious about the night. When I came time to perform I was half hard when going in and flaccid coming out. I guess that counts? LOL... She was super supportive much like a girlfriend but she cheats.
After the act, we started acting like friends again. Usual conversations and such. But She flips me over for a massage and other acts of affection. Think I found a good mix of friends and benefits with C.
Edit: no alcohol nor mones are involved.
Congratulations! I wonder of this was success in spite of efforts at self sabotage? If it is, the ASS/ART must be pretty good to be able to help with that!
Now that the V card is no longer in play, hopefully this will make things easier on you concerning sex in general. Less worries and expectations.
I hope so too. She agreed to be my fwb as well. I'm also going to run version A and remove some more fears surrounding performance and ,oddly enough, my race.
In my 20-some years since losing my virginity, what I have learned is that as long as she comes out the other end having enjoyed sex and been sexually satisfied, she generally doesn't care how you did it or what you did to get her there.
Don't put so much pressure on yourself. Just remember the rule that everyone wants something for themselves, so when you have sex with a woman, try to find a way to give her as much pleasure (or more) than what you get from her.
Get a rep for doing that, and you'll be swimming in it.
And remember, if the ol' boy won't stand up, there's always tongue and fingers. There have been times in the past when I was relatively inexperienced, where I was really nervous and he wouldn't stand up. So I just tongue lashed her and/or fingered her until the sounds of her pleasure and the feeling of her wetness made him stand up. There's multiple ways to get to the goal. And the goal is mutual sexual pleasure and enjoyment. Unless one of you gets off being used for the enjoyment of the other... but that's still "getting off".
Expectations kill the vibe. Get rid of 'em. Just have fun with it.
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The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!
