I think reading social cues or being able to interpret body language is a conscious filter function you can develop. Just like picking up clues about the rest of our environment, like smelling that it's gonna rain or noticing a drop or rise in air pressure before weather changes, noticing a frown or see/hear a dog snarl.
If you concentrate you are easily able to pick them up. It gets more blatant over time. But that does not mean that you have to adapt your behavior accordingly. In and off itself it is just an observation from which you can interpret what state people are in. And the accuracy of your conclusion about that state also gets better over time.
Now, to make this a simple example, there are three ways to (re)act:
1. You don't care about the state others are in and blind out what you have learned about body language and just do what you want to do. You might step onto some toes, but who cares?
2. You observe and interpret body language, know with some experience what state the people around you are in, but still do your thing but are able to avoid stepping onto the toes of the ones around you.
3. You observe and interpret body language, decide to use it to you advantage and decide to experiment with what action from you triggers what reaction in the people that have communicated their mental state to you via BL. You group them and try what action triggers what reaction in obviously closed off people, in obviously open people, obviously DTF people, and so on.
It's completely up to you what you do with what you notice. As the term says it's a language. You can decide practicing to read it or not, become fluent, learn to speak it, translate it into other languages, or use the information you learn from reading to do something with it. Your choice.
If you concentrate you are easily able to pick them up. It gets more blatant over time. But that does not mean that you have to adapt your behavior accordingly. In and off itself it is just an observation from which you can interpret what state people are in. And the accuracy of your conclusion about that state also gets better over time.
Now, to make this a simple example, there are three ways to (re)act:
1. You don't care about the state others are in and blind out what you have learned about body language and just do what you want to do. You might step onto some toes, but who cares?
2. You observe and interpret body language, know with some experience what state the people around you are in, but still do your thing but are able to avoid stepping onto the toes of the ones around you.
3. You observe and interpret body language, decide to use it to you advantage and decide to experiment with what action from you triggers what reaction in the people that have communicated their mental state to you via BL. You group them and try what action triggers what reaction in obviously closed off people, in obviously open people, obviously DTF people, and so on.
It's completely up to you what you do with what you notice. As the term says it's a language. You can decide practicing to read it or not, become fluent, learn to speak it, translate it into other languages, or use the information you learn from reading to do something with it. Your choice.
_ - Third Stone From The Sun - _
