I need a pep talk. I hate to admit that because a) I have high expectations of myself and b) it's like talking to a therapist - you know you're going to feel better, but then you're like why couldn't I do that for myself?
So a little backstory. I got a server's # and it was the tightest game I've ever spit. I surprised myself. My frame was incredibly strong. I also have a lead from Tinder. The server is probably an 8 or 9 in my book, and the Tinder girl is a 6, maybe a 6.5. The server has shit tested me plenty in conversation, while Tinder girl laughs at everything I say. Tinder girl is in her late teens, server is in her 20s. Feels like the server is slipping only after a few days because I haven't made a definitive plan to go out with her. I should assume she has other suitors, with more experience and killer instinct than me.
Recently I talked about a girl that pursued me in the beginning and was almost explicitly dtf, but I waited too long to meet up and she moved on. I think she lost respect for me because I didn't move quickly. The server's tone has changed and I sense that if I don't try to meet up with her this week, she's lost. As it turns out, I'm going to have the house to myself, which is the perfect opportunity for both of these girls, but I'm choking like I usually do.
SM3 unlocked the ability in me to get to this point, but the results are not yet consistent and I'm still fighting them. I guess part of me is freaking out because I'm closer than ever to having success with women and this is what my insecurities have had me running from all these years. All I have to do is set up a date and I feel paralyzed to do so. I'm angry at that part of myself that's ok with letting these girls slip. Guys who get laid want this and there's no internal conflict. I bet there are guys reading who are like, I don't understand, just fuck them why is this is even a thing? It's so ridiculous that I'm kicking and screaming every step of the way. Clearly I want to indulge my irrational fears more than I want to face fuck a leggy blonde.
So here I am on the cusp of letting another one get away, trying to reframe the situation in mind that if I don't act, I am disrespecting myself as a person and as a man; an infringement of my self-respect being way more unacceptable than losing the respect of any woman.
So a little backstory. I got a server's # and it was the tightest game I've ever spit. I surprised myself. My frame was incredibly strong. I also have a lead from Tinder. The server is probably an 8 or 9 in my book, and the Tinder girl is a 6, maybe a 6.5. The server has shit tested me plenty in conversation, while Tinder girl laughs at everything I say. Tinder girl is in her late teens, server is in her 20s. Feels like the server is slipping only after a few days because I haven't made a definitive plan to go out with her. I should assume she has other suitors, with more experience and killer instinct than me.
Recently I talked about a girl that pursued me in the beginning and was almost explicitly dtf, but I waited too long to meet up and she moved on. I think she lost respect for me because I didn't move quickly. The server's tone has changed and I sense that if I don't try to meet up with her this week, she's lost. As it turns out, I'm going to have the house to myself, which is the perfect opportunity for both of these girls, but I'm choking like I usually do.
SM3 unlocked the ability in me to get to this point, but the results are not yet consistent and I'm still fighting them. I guess part of me is freaking out because I'm closer than ever to having success with women and this is what my insecurities have had me running from all these years. All I have to do is set up a date and I feel paralyzed to do so. I'm angry at that part of myself that's ok with letting these girls slip. Guys who get laid want this and there's no internal conflict. I bet there are guys reading who are like, I don't understand, just fuck them why is this is even a thing? It's so ridiculous that I'm kicking and screaming every step of the way. Clearly I want to indulge my irrational fears more than I want to face fuck a leggy blonde.
So here I am on the cusp of letting another one get away, trying to reframe the situation in mind that if I don't act, I am disrespecting myself as a person and as a man; an infringement of my self-respect being way more unacceptable than losing the respect of any woman.
Under heaven all can see beauty as beauty only because there is ugliness.
All can know good as good only because there is evil.
All can know good as good only because there is evil.
