Shannon,
As I'm reading these posts by @chaosvrgn I'm concluding we need some respect and anti-flake technology in v3 and I don't know how else to describe it. This woman #3 is doing something that seems all too common. Maybe even add something that she thinks she'll miss out on something really important if she doesn't show up. So I guess that's 3 technologies I'm suggesting.
Is she afraid of sex or emotional intimacy? Is her flakiness the female version of approach anxiety? Is she in constant stress mode because of work such that dating seems ephemeral and unimportant? Is she hiding a boyfriend? Is she weighing her perceived options? Is she using him for validation? Is she keeping him in a holding pattern as a way of feeling powerful, in control, reassured... or perhaps to boost her ego? WHO CARES?!
I realize that the purpose of this program is sex not love, but I'm wanting to draw an analogy here... we need something to tip the balance in our favor so we as the users of the program become her priority... the priority in her life. I don't know how to say it any other way, but I've seen women run away from price charming types even though these same women swear they want to "find a good man and settle down with him". I just don't think women are as motivated by sex and relationships as we might think they are, or as they want us to believe they are. If we're not the priority, something else is going to be her escape hatch to jump ship. "I have to work that night" "I don't know what I'm doing then" "My cousin's coming into town" "I don't know you very well" "I think my macrobiotic cooking class is that night" ... and endless indecision and waffling.
There are reasons I'd want a woman avoiding me such as if she had a contagious disease, was "trouble" (very manipulative, violent, malicious, etc.), trying to trick men into fatherhood, ... you know what I'm getting at...
As I'm reading these posts by @
Is she afraid of sex or emotional intimacy? Is her flakiness the female version of approach anxiety? Is she in constant stress mode because of work such that dating seems ephemeral and unimportant? Is she hiding a boyfriend? Is she weighing her perceived options? Is she using him for validation? Is she keeping him in a holding pattern as a way of feeling powerful, in control, reassured... or perhaps to boost her ego? WHO CARES?!
I realize that the purpose of this program is sex not love, but I'm wanting to draw an analogy here... we need something to tip the balance in our favor so we as the users of the program become her priority... the priority in her life. I don't know how to say it any other way, but I've seen women run away from price charming types even though these same women swear they want to "find a good man and settle down with him". I just don't think women are as motivated by sex and relationships as we might think they are, or as they want us to believe they are. If we're not the priority, something else is going to be her escape hatch to jump ship. "I have to work that night" "I don't know what I'm doing then" "My cousin's coming into town" "I don't know you very well" "I think my macrobiotic cooking class is that night" ... and endless indecision and waffling.
There are reasons I'd want a woman avoiding me such as if she had a contagious disease, was "trouble" (very manipulative, violent, malicious, etc.), trying to trick men into fatherhood, ... you know what I'm getting at...
