I AM the SEX, the MONEY and the POWER (DMSI v2.4)

[Catman]

I've cut off people who act the way they do, gents. I have no time for that "if I'm not happy, nobody else will be happy, I'll try to ruin their day so they're miserable too" BS. No thanks. I'd rather have no friends than "friends" like that. Up to you, but me personally, I'd be checking out. Otherwise, you tend to pick up the traits, be that positive or negative in this case, of those around you, and they hold you back in life. If people aren't going in the same direction as me in life, and have a balanced positive proactive attitude, I'll give it a chance for a bit. Everyone gets into a funk at times so I give them a chance. But if they are often negative or toxic, then bye bye.

Trust me, it feels great to rid yourself of anchors like that. I've "grown out" of friends many many times in my journey. Nothing wrong with it or them, we're just at different stages in life. You need people around you wearing the same jersey as you.

That's the thing, my cousin IS going the same way as me. He just has that tendency and it's definitely becoming a problem, but like I said, we're on the same page in almost every other way.

EDIT: Actually CatMan, how do you deal with customers then? I'm sure you know how most people who make up the consumer pool are negative.

Then if he is immovable from your life in your view, then establish firm boundaries about it and use pattern interrupts to break the words/thoughts when they come up. Limit contact if you have to, I've had to do that with terribly negative family members, unfortunately. Their attitude and beliefs are so cancerous on certain issues, I can't be exposed to it for too long without it billowing over to me and affecting me. You need to make sure you limit those kinds of influences, one way or another, basically.

Oh no, quite the opposite in my experience. People will be decent to you, if you are providing them true value and something they want. Fulfilling a need, simple as that. Especially since many companies DON'T do that, and only see short term profits so they exploit people. As a result, people get defensive and jaded when dealing with companies. As long as it's abundantly clear to them they are getting good solid value, they will love dealing with you and treasure it. My customers go NUTS for my company, because I've fostered good quality long term connections, giving them true real value, solving a need/want, they know what they're getting with me.