Shannon's DMSI V2.2 Journal

[Shannon]

Shannon,

1) A number of years ago I was having lunch with a friend who was telling me about a man she was dating. This is what she said, “I don't want to have kids. But if this guy I'm dating right now wanted me to have his babies, I'd do it for him.” (This seemed to me a crossroads of reproductive sex and recreational sex. Perhaps in other words, willing to engage in reproductive sex, but truly desiring recreational sex. In this case, the reproductive sex would only occur when the user wanted it to. Almost like she'd be willing to make sacrifices for him. Important note: she was pursuing him, which is congruent with the goals of DMSI.)

I have had multiple women I have dated tell me the same thing. "I don't want to have kids, but I will do it for you." It comes from a woman being so deeply in love with a man, and trusting him so much, that she will do nearly anything to show him how much she loves him.

The issue is that it requires love, and I'm not sure that's a good direction to be going in with this... making people fall in love with the user, I mean. Otherwise, it would be a good strategy.

2) About disinhibition:
a) responders know and feel the user is more than “worth the risk” to the point they happily take effective action to repeatedly fulfill the goals of the program with the user (over ride fears of judgment, or going against society or religion)

This is something I actually have planned for V3 already. Very good idea.

b) responders experience a fear of losing the user to their peers to the point they happily take effective action to repeatedly fulfill the goals of the program with the user (sense of urgency)

Fear is a negative emotion, and I am against inducing guilt, shame fear or any other negative emotion intentionally. That said, I am planning to include something in V3 that makes them well aware of the fact that this person is extremely valuable and rare, and so much so that she couldn't afford to risk not acting on this, which may be her only opportunity to act.

3) As analoguos to “giving them permission”:
a) responders know and feel that people they look up to, people they admire, and people they want to emulate want to repeatedly have physical sex with the user, too

This is a very good one also, and I had not gotten around to writing this one down in the list for V3, but it had crossed my mind a few times. I'll add it.

b) responders know and feel that their peers want to have physical sex with the user, too

Basically what I had in mind was, cause them to perceive this person as being someone who everyone they look up to and admire would want to and be willing to have repeated sex with, and this of course gets the "peer approved" effect which encourages action because it will be "rewarded" by approval from said peers and by the pleasure of having sex.