(08-13-2016, 11:55 AM)Shannon Wrote:(08-13-2016, 07:07 AM)Steven Wrote: @RTBoss,
That is a very good point! There is also self-trust. I can't tell you how many times I've heard women talk about a man they like and say to their friends "I just don't trust myself with him."
But yes, trust is a good one. That may be one of the missing elements.
The issue - if it is trust - would be self trust on her part, which is based in fear of something. Most of the time, it is fear of the social or religious consequences of her desired course of actions. E.g., "acting like a ***** in public".
She would also need to trust, then, that the person she chooses to sleep with will not go blabbing that she's a whore, or that he is indeed so high value it would be worth it.
My wife's sister (married) has talked down about cheaters in the past. Then one day she's over at my house watching the CMAs. Luke Bryan was singing. My sister-in-law says, right in front of her husband (then boyfriend), "If I ever did cheat, he could get me to do it." He just nodded in agreement, as if he acknowledged he understood that would be okay.