Look at the Lady Boners! - DMSI V2.2 5.5G

[Shannon]

With women, there are no hard and fast "rules" the way a man would think of them. They make them up and change them depending on their mood, how they feel at that moment, or what their PERSONAL goals are, or what their indiscretions have been.

Bits got it exactly right with his "IT'S A TRAP" post.

Now to take it a step further, and hopefully you are not too offended, but if it's OK for you to do certain things and keep it secret, what is ok for her to do, and keep it secret from you? And I mean this strictly from her perspective.

As men, we allow our egos to trick us into thinking that we are the smartest and the more clever one in the relationship. What we are capable of, or doing currently, we think that they would NEVER do that to us because either they love us too much, or they are not like us, or they are a good person, or whatever other reason we can think of to support our egos.

When you get right down to it, women are exactly the same as men in their base carnal desires. So the question I would ask myself is "Did she just give ME a free pass, or HERSELF one?"

In a relationship, if the woman is making the rules, then the woman is leading. It should be that either both sit down and hash out the rules in the beginning, and agree to what works for both of them, or the man chooses the rules he is happy with and then seeks women who are willing to play by those rules.

In either case, she cannot "make them up and change them according to her whim" unless he lets her, and she wants to be on the receiving end of either his boot as he kicks her out, or him doing whatever he wants - since that sort of rules changing basically amounts to her doing whatever she wants.

Don't forget that a set of rules is intended to be what makes the relationship work for both parties. If he is too weak to stop her from playing "change the rules on a whim" (which is a massive shit test) that will lead to her doing whatever she wants and her disappearance if he fails to set the boundaries and enforce a set of rules for both parties equally.

But like I said... change the rules veeery carefully. It can have some unexpected consequences.