08-04-2016, 02:19 PM
(08-04-2016, 01:59 PM)Shannon Wrote: 1. Was her readiness sudden and unexpected, out of the blue, or have you and/or she been waking another child previously?
2. How much of your willingness to have another baby was you wanting to, and how much was you doing what she wants and/or trying to please her instead?
3. How likely do you think it is that she decided to have another baby as a direct result of your use of DMSI and your apparent sexual/social/etc. value going up?
1. Our plan has always been to try for a second child so that our first would be 3 years of age or older at the time of the second child's birth. If she were to get pregnant today, he would likely be (+/- 1 week) 3 years old when his sibling is born (based on 39-40 gestation - my wife likes to be induced before 42 weeks, lol). One of her best friends, the only one still living in the same city we are, just found out she's pregnant. I would venture a guess they are excited about being pregnant at the same time together.
2. I was ready to start trying back in early April, 1 month after starting EHPRA 2.0. She was listening to EHPRA 2.0 as well, unbeknownst to her. She stated very clearly that she wasn't ready yet, and would let me know when she was. While I was a little disappointed, I deferred to her. I didn't want her to get pregnant while she felt she wasn't ready.
3. There are so many variables - from starting DMSI, to her friend getting pregnant, to our original long-term plan of trying to conceive around this time. It would be difficult to single-out DMSI as the main culprit, here. That being said, I don't think it has hurt at all. I have made it clear in some of my posts that since starting DMSI, a certain spark that had been missing is back in our relationship. From my perspective, her level of interest in me (romantically and sexually) is noticeably improved from 5 months ago. That has to have affected her comfort level with committing to another child with me. Just this time last year, we were almost on the rocks, due to an early mid-life crisis of sorts on my end.
Hope that helps.
