Shannon's DMSI V2.2 Journal

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To defend Banksy:

It wasn't that he was expressing his opinions, it was more the last post and a few others that go past expressing his opinion and seemingly wanting to cause arguments.

That would depend on your interpretation. I think the point that Banksy was making was that, money aside, this girl now has the long-term commitment to raise a child into adulthood and all that that entails, while Mr Chaos is free to do as he likes.

Please consider the following questions. Break them down rationally and explore the pathology of your reasoning:

Why would you immediately assume that I would abandon my child instead of pursuing 50/50 custody?

Do you assume that outcome every time you hear a story like this? If so, why is your initial reaction to side with the woman?

If we were to assign "blame" to the birth of a child, isn't the woman equally "at fault" as the man?

I had an old account on this forum and I just had to respond to this. Sorry.

Chaos, I respect the fact that you care for your kid and pursued 50/50 (I assume), but does that mean that every man does this? No.

There is a risk that a woman's life could be completely turned upside down, while all a man has to do is reorganize his finances (yes a burden, but not comparable). My point is that there is more of a risk on the woman's side, surely you wouldn't disagree with that.

I don't know why they would deny your access to visit your kid, but I'm sure visitation rights are not that unjust. It's easy to say the system screwed me over without us seeing both sides. I know if I had a daughter I would not want her life to be fucked up by some guy because she chose to trust him, I'm sure you wouldn't either.

You seem to be just using ad hominem attacks instead of explaining the full story. And most situations aren't as unique as yours. Sometimes guys don't even pay child support. Whatever you decide to do, legally you are free to walk away.

You never mentioned anything about your child in all this talk about how the system did you wrong, you just complained about your finances. (You have the right obviously). But you can understand how some of us can assume that you not getting custody didn't bother you.

I don't want to be disrespectful to anyone innocent (never any intended), but you did choose to put your business out there in a heated argument, so...

This discussion would be a lot more unbiased if we had single mothers share their perspective, just saying.

Some of you obviously just want to control the narrative and be victims, victims of what? I'm not sure. Figure that out.