07-24-2016, 02:59 PM
(07-24-2016, 02:46 PM)Ricardo Wrote:(07-24-2016, 01:43 PM)K-Train Wrote:(07-24-2016, 01:27 AM)Ricardo Wrote: Of course the only people that come out with the "women don't make you happy" bs are always the ones who have women in their lives. Try living without your wive's, girlfriends or what have you, for say the next 20 years, then make the same statement.
I think the key here is that your wife, GF, etc. shouldn't be the primary source of your happiness. Before you even meet them you should already be happy with yourself and content. The companionship and attention of women should be a perk; an add-on to what you already have.
Here's a good analogy: Let's say your car engine has the ability to generate its own energy (regardless of how realistic it currently is) BUT adding gasoline allows it to perform at 150% vs 100% (with no gasoline). Obviously having some gasoline is going to really provide a boost however if that engine runs out of gas it still can run and the car can keep going.
Now let's suppose you have a car that relies on gasoline to function. Once it runs out of gas it'll eventually stop dead and shut off until you re-fuel it. A lot of people (myself included) have operated like this in the past in regards to women or currently ARE operating like this with women. Which engine would you rather have? The engine that is self-sufficient but can be boosted with additional help or the engine that relies on gas (women in this case) in order to keep going?
You are correct Ricardo in that humans are social creatures and social interactions do play a role in our health. My point with all this is that women should/can be a "power source" for your well-being as long as they aren't the PRIMARY power source for your happiness and well-being.
The engine examples don't really cut it. I see what you are trying to say but that's too simplistic. An engine doesn't have the character and qualities of a human, yes a self sufficient one might run under it's own energy well being but it's still an engine and wouldn't care about fuel because it's just a machine with moving parts. My previous statement still stands. Women are fundamental to our continued existence, which is why the drive within males is so strong to procreate. Women are certainly not just as perk or an add-on.
I agree 100% women aren't a bonus in life to me. In my view that's like seeing women and money as the same thing, like I can be happy without a billion dollars, a billion dollars would make me happier of course, but it's just a bonus, I don't see women as just a bonus, I see them as a fundamental need for a straight man, like you can fix me up in every possible way, but if you keep women out of my life, then real happiness is being kept out also. Only speaking for myself.