You guys are really believing what the GOVERNMENT has to say about child support statistics? The same government playing alpha to women and playing a major hand in the emasculation of men? These made up statistics are little more than another way to shame men into become good lil' provider betas. Recently, I've had a string of female acquaintances refer to me as a "man-child" because I take my money and do wtf I want with it. When I mentioned considering buying a solo trip to Iceland, they acted like that was the weirdest thing ever -- to use my money and travel alone rather than spending it on some ungrateful woman.
Here's my secret -- I HAVE gone through the child support system. I paid child support for a year until that stopped for reasons I won't discuss.
The process is NOT bureaucratic. It's NOT even hard. It's fast and totally biased against the male. Here's how it went:
I received a letter stating that a particular individual had requested that the state collect child support on her behalf. I was instructed to call a number. I spoke to the case worker, she informed me that I could get an idea of what I'd have to pay by using the following calculator: https://nddhacts01.dhhs.state.nc.us/Work...ustody.jsp
The calculator basically said I'd pay upwards of $675/month, without any regard to my personal bills. My rent, my car payment, my student loans -- NONE of those were considered. ONLY what's on that worksheet. That line labeled "extraordinary expense?" No, no. Doesn't refer to you. Refers to things like private schooling that you're already paying for.
When I told her that I couldn't afford $675 because of reasons, she stated that the worksheet was law and if it went before the judge, he would most likely enforce that number. However, she could act as a mediator between me and the mother to see if she could lower it a little.
Infuriated yet? No? Well, get ready --
At this point, I was pissed. I threatened to quit my job, because I wasn't working my @$$ off to hand my cash over to this b*tch -- who I had already given thousands to. The case worker informed me that if I quit my job, I would still be responsible for back pay, they'd just give me a small time to find another job. And get this: I said I'd just get a bartending job somewhere, avoid paying out large amounts. She said that the judge could compel me to get a job that was equal in income to what I was making at the time, and if I didn't comply, the judge could adjust the child support to match the higher salary. In other words, I'd still have to pay the $675, even on as a minimum wage bartender.
How is this fair, in any way? I managed to get out of my child support payments pretty much by being an evil, cruel, manipulative individual. Had I not turned into that dark triad mofo, I'd still be at a job that I HATED, paying out absurd amounts of money to a woman who's parents are beyond rich. She just wanted to screw me over.
What the f*ck is wrong with you guys who continue to give into this "women are wonderful" effect. They are humans, just like us. They can be just as evil and manipulative (and even more so) as men. They are not inherently good. This is why they can get away with ruining so many lives. The men they destroy are largely invisible, and are pretty much demonized as betas for "failing." This is why male suicide is so high.
I've made a vow to stay off my high horse, but sorry -- I had to ride in and smash some heads this time. I really can't believe that I just read someone say that it's okay for a woman to pretty much enslave a man to 18 years of financial destitution and then tried to anger shame Sarge for being like, wtf.
Really guys. Wake up.
Here's my secret -- I HAVE gone through the child support system. I paid child support for a year until that stopped for reasons I won't discuss.
The process is NOT bureaucratic. It's NOT even hard. It's fast and totally biased against the male. Here's how it went:
I received a letter stating that a particular individual had requested that the state collect child support on her behalf. I was instructed to call a number. I spoke to the case worker, she informed me that I could get an idea of what I'd have to pay by using the following calculator: https://nddhacts01.dhhs.state.nc.us/Work...ustody.jsp
The calculator basically said I'd pay upwards of $675/month, without any regard to my personal bills. My rent, my car payment, my student loans -- NONE of those were considered. ONLY what's on that worksheet. That line labeled "extraordinary expense?" No, no. Doesn't refer to you. Refers to things like private schooling that you're already paying for.
When I told her that I couldn't afford $675 because of reasons, she stated that the worksheet was law and if it went before the judge, he would most likely enforce that number. However, she could act as a mediator between me and the mother to see if she could lower it a little.
Infuriated yet? No? Well, get ready --
At this point, I was pissed. I threatened to quit my job, because I wasn't working my @$$ off to hand my cash over to this b*tch -- who I had already given thousands to. The case worker informed me that if I quit my job, I would still be responsible for back pay, they'd just give me a small time to find another job. And get this: I said I'd just get a bartending job somewhere, avoid paying out large amounts. She said that the judge could compel me to get a job that was equal in income to what I was making at the time, and if I didn't comply, the judge could adjust the child support to match the higher salary. In other words, I'd still have to pay the $675, even on as a minimum wage bartender.
How is this fair, in any way? I managed to get out of my child support payments pretty much by being an evil, cruel, manipulative individual. Had I not turned into that dark triad mofo, I'd still be at a job that I HATED, paying out absurd amounts of money to a woman who's parents are beyond rich. She just wanted to screw me over.
What the f*ck is wrong with you guys who continue to give into this "women are wonderful" effect. They are humans, just like us. They can be just as evil and manipulative (and even more so) as men. They are not inherently good. This is why they can get away with ruining so many lives. The men they destroy are largely invisible, and are pretty much demonized as betas for "failing." This is why male suicide is so high.
I've made a vow to stay off my high horse, but sorry -- I had to ride in and smash some heads this time. I really can't believe that I just read someone say that it's okay for a woman to pretty much enslave a man to 18 years of financial destitution and then tried to anger shame Sarge for being like, wtf.
Really guys. Wake up.
