07-23-2016, 08:54 AM
A quick example.
Assuming you frequent a coffee shop or a restaurant where you know you are going to meet a sexually attractive girl. Maybe she is a waitress there or she frequent the coffee shop same like you.
What is the rush for you to initiate anything with her on the first day when you know you are going to meet her again and again? You can take your time, get comfortable and maybe after a few you rounds of you visiting the place, you may decide to initiate. There is no urgency because you know she is going to be there everyday.
On the other hand, assuming you know someone else is also after the girl, any day you didn't initiate, you missed a chance and may ended up losing her to the other guy. In that case, there is urgency for you initiate immediately when you have the chance.
In the case women, the norm is men initiate.
So assuming even when women is interested in you. What is the urgency for the women to do the initiating when they have the option to let you initiate first? They can choose to show signs they are interested and wait..
Since men can and known to initiate.
Unless they think they will loose you to someone else...
That is what I meant by urgency.
Assuming you frequent a coffee shop or a restaurant where you know you are going to meet a sexually attractive girl. Maybe she is a waitress there or she frequent the coffee shop same like you.
What is the rush for you to initiate anything with her on the first day when you know you are going to meet her again and again? You can take your time, get comfortable and maybe after a few you rounds of you visiting the place, you may decide to initiate. There is no urgency because you know she is going to be there everyday.
On the other hand, assuming you know someone else is also after the girl, any day you didn't initiate, you missed a chance and may ended up losing her to the other guy. In that case, there is urgency for you initiate immediately when you have the chance.
In the case women, the norm is men initiate.
So assuming even when women is interested in you. What is the urgency for the women to do the initiating when they have the option to let you initiate first? They can choose to show signs they are interested and wait..
Since men can and known to initiate.
Unless they think they will loose you to someone else...
That is what I meant by urgency.
