07-20-2016, 07:11 AM
Shannon,
I wanted to post this separately. A block. It "started" with that post you made about California.
"Don't laugh. California is the Land of Insanity. They tried and succeeded in passing a law that states that if the woman decides she does not want sex, then the man is instantly and legally guilty of rape, even if she seduced him, and regardless of sobriety or who is sober.
Meaning she can seduce you, suck your cock, ride you until she comes, and then decide she's done and you're a rapist, and you go to jail."
The reason I say "started" is that it started me processing my fear rather than being the inception of my fear. The inception happened years earlier.
I've known men who have had milder analogous things happen to them. Where women are the initiators, instigators, seducers... then the next day the women feel "used", or they call the man to accuse him of "taking advantage of her", or the women feel so guilty/ashamed the next day they text the man to tell him they never want to see him, or the women just disappear.
Fears of those types of things happening to me have lingered and held me back. I've been trying to push those fears away for years, and that California post helped them surface and I've had to face them.
If you have any input on dealing with the emotional or practical aspects of this, I'd appreciate it.
Since I'm assuming the user is acting responsibly, kindly, compassionately, "with good intentions", respectfully, etc... if in v3 you were to put in a "screen" to weed out women who might do things like that, as well as scripting so the whole process of fulfilling the goals of the program with the user would be ego syntonic for all responders, I'd appreciate it. Because I think it's important to be part of the solution, I've been condensing posts and ideas to help in scripts regarding these things, which should be for the benefit of all involved.
I wanted to post this separately. A block. It "started" with that post you made about California.
"Don't laugh. California is the Land of Insanity. They tried and succeeded in passing a law that states that if the woman decides she does not want sex, then the man is instantly and legally guilty of rape, even if she seduced him, and regardless of sobriety or who is sober.
Meaning she can seduce you, suck your cock, ride you until she comes, and then decide she's done and you're a rapist, and you go to jail."
The reason I say "started" is that it started me processing my fear rather than being the inception of my fear. The inception happened years earlier.
I've known men who have had milder analogous things happen to them. Where women are the initiators, instigators, seducers... then the next day the women feel "used", or they call the man to accuse him of "taking advantage of her", or the women feel so guilty/ashamed the next day they text the man to tell him they never want to see him, or the women just disappear.
Fears of those types of things happening to me have lingered and held me back. I've been trying to push those fears away for years, and that California post helped them surface and I've had to face them.
If you have any input on dealing with the emotional or practical aspects of this, I'd appreciate it.
Since I'm assuming the user is acting responsibly, kindly, compassionately, "with good intentions", respectfully, etc... if in v3 you were to put in a "screen" to weed out women who might do things like that, as well as scripting so the whole process of fulfilling the goals of the program with the user would be ego syntonic for all responders, I'd appreciate it. Because I think it's important to be part of the solution, I've been condensing posts and ideas to help in scripts regarding these things, which should be for the benefit of all involved.
