Overcoming Approach Anxiety with a Positive Attitude

[Spiral]

Wow I love this combo. There have been minor ups and downs but all in all it seems like it would be a wonderful pre req for sex magnet after alpha. I'm running this combo for another month before starting sex magnet.

I'm positive for the most part. I'm never overly over joyed but I'm quite content. And most anxiety has been dealt with however.. being around beautiful women has been a challenge. There's no limiting self talk that comes up but I just feel a little different. As it is I still don't get out much and socialize but I ran into someone and we began talking. He teaches karate at the college and apparently it's not just for students so I'm gonna check that out on monday.

EDIT: I thought you guys might find this quircky.

I just got back from a fishing trip and the night before we left Me, the captain, a few of his buds, my crew member, and the captains wife were all drinking and eating hamburgers.

Anyways, as the night was ending I asked the captain about something in relation to what we were just talking about (fishing and how customers like aciton more than just going for the biggest fish) anyways he obviously felt I wasn't paying attention or interested even though I was looking at him and saying cool and what not. His words trailed off but he finished what he was saying. Then he wanted approval by asking me "Know what I mean?" and I said "yes I know what you mean".

Maybe he wanted me to chime in and say yes I get that.. If I was a customer I'd want to just have fun and fish without trying to get the biggest fish.. But that didn't really come up into my head nor did I feel like talking. So after that I began talking to his friend after he asked me a question and answered him and then out of the blue the captains like "Ryan, you just don't give a fuck do you?!" I guess he was messin' around but I didn't like it so I just looked at him and said excuse me? "You just don't give a shit!" I just proceeded to continue talking to his buddy and the captain then said "Ryan, have you ever interjected someone?" then I said "yes" and then proceeded again to talk to his friend and he continues to interject me being a smart ass. Before all this we've been on great terms but I didn't appreciate this behavior and didn't know why he felt he needed to act this way.

Anyways.. he stopped then came up to me and put his arm around me and made some joke relating to the shirt I was wearing but not about the shirt. Then I said "yes I guess he just wanted to quit" with a grin on my face (had the grin on me face pretty much the entire time this all happened). This was an answer to his question that he asked me jokingly trying to lighten the mood. After I said that though he took his arm away and put his head down and sulked away for a little bit. Then I just said goodnight to everyone and my crew buddy and I headed down to go to sleep.

Now, I do give a fuck. I want people to feel good and appreciated by me. Sometimes all I can do is say that's awesome and cool and some animated facial expressions. I ask questions because I'm interested. But when you start offending me in one way or another I stop giving a fuck.

If any of you can picture this situation in your head how would it make you feel? Would you just go with the captains new vibe or get aggravated and just stop paying attention to the obnoxious behavior.

I think a year ago if this happened I would start defending my self... but I didn't here.