05-30-2011, 05:44 PM
So lately my attitude towards life has been so laid back and spontaneous at the same time. Like I'll just say screw it you only live once and just enjoy myself as much as possible. Life is way too short to worry about the small things. So I treated myself to a new skateboard because I was just living in the moment. Yeah, in the back of my mind I'm worried about money to some degree, but that's only because I was so tight fisted back when I didn't have a job. Now that I've got money I can treat myself to something nice. Balance is key, I only buy something if I really really want it. Like today I bought a PS2, only 40 bucks, how could I say no lol? I love video games and my PS3 isn't backwards compatible, but there are a ton of good games for PS2 still out there and some I'd just love to play again.
Anyway, it just made me realize how fear used to make me worry about stuff instead of enjoying life. Of course this doesn't mean throw all responsibility out the window, but also don't be so strict with myself. I love that phrase live each day as if it were your last. Sometimes it's just better to go with the flow instead of trying to constantly plan out something to the point of attempting to control too much.
Along with this I realized life shouldn't be taken seriously all the time. When I used to think of alpha male I used to think of presence, being in the moment, exuding dominance. But I'm internalizing more and more, just do what I want to do, not a preconceived notion of what I should do. Yeah I can be dominant and I have a lot of presence, but rarely is someone like that ALL the time. If they were, how boring would that get? I realized you can just let that go, be yourself and when you need to put your foot down or get dominant you can bring it out. But, the thing is this advice wouldn't work for 90% of guys out there because being themselves is actually what society has conditioned them to think of themselves not who they truly are, a natural alpha male.
Overall you can give advice to guys, but if they don't feel alpha they won't be alpha, period. This is why I can't even put into words how to be alpha, because it truly is something you feel and experience, it's beyond logical comprehension at times. I used to think beliefs were a gimmick and if you practiced meditating or being in the present moment things would be better and programming new beliefs was just a form of feeding the ego. Wrong, you are a reflection of what you believe and others can see it even if you can't. I can't tell you how great it feels to know that I can just let go and be that guy that I've always wanted to be. This also makes me think of how reality operates, I now truly believe that having the right beliefs will grant you success in any area of life. It's like switching paths and suddenly things are on that new path that the old one would never have had. Your reality literally shifts and you are amazed by it. It also makes you realize that you can just keep going, keep building a better and better reality. Each reality you step into you say it couldn't possibly get any better, but it can and it does if you know how to get there. I feel our self imposed limits on ourselves can be broken but people live in fear and are unwilling to accept the unknown.
Anyway, it just made me realize how fear used to make me worry about stuff instead of enjoying life. Of course this doesn't mean throw all responsibility out the window, but also don't be so strict with myself. I love that phrase live each day as if it were your last. Sometimes it's just better to go with the flow instead of trying to constantly plan out something to the point of attempting to control too much.
Along with this I realized life shouldn't be taken seriously all the time. When I used to think of alpha male I used to think of presence, being in the moment, exuding dominance. But I'm internalizing more and more, just do what I want to do, not a preconceived notion of what I should do. Yeah I can be dominant and I have a lot of presence, but rarely is someone like that ALL the time. If they were, how boring would that get? I realized you can just let that go, be yourself and when you need to put your foot down or get dominant you can bring it out. But, the thing is this advice wouldn't work for 90% of guys out there because being themselves is actually what society has conditioned them to think of themselves not who they truly are, a natural alpha male.
Overall you can give advice to guys, but if they don't feel alpha they won't be alpha, period. This is why I can't even put into words how to be alpha, because it truly is something you feel and experience, it's beyond logical comprehension at times. I used to think beliefs were a gimmick and if you practiced meditating or being in the present moment things would be better and programming new beliefs was just a form of feeding the ego. Wrong, you are a reflection of what you believe and others can see it even if you can't. I can't tell you how great it feels to know that I can just let go and be that guy that I've always wanted to be. This also makes me think of how reality operates, I now truly believe that having the right beliefs will grant you success in any area of life. It's like switching paths and suddenly things are on that new path that the old one would never have had. Your reality literally shifts and you are amazed by it. It also makes you realize that you can just keep going, keep building a better and better reality. Each reality you step into you say it couldn't possibly get any better, but it can and it does if you know how to get there. I feel our self imposed limits on ourselves can be broken but people live in fear and are unwilling to accept the unknown.
