Spiritman Journal

[Spiritman]

You should make it obvious that you are also interested, but not in a way that suggests neediness. You want to do this so she doesn't think she's "trying to dance alone", so to speak. If she doesn't know you're interested, she may just walk away.

Shannon that is a good idea, how would I go about doing that to where I won't come across as being needy?

That's not something I can just give you a canned universal answer to. It depends on a lot of variables I am not aware of. Usually what I do is give one pretty obvious IOI and then let it ride for a while. Be unpredictable about it with the obvious, major stuff. This tells her you are definitely interested, but it's not a desperate or needy thing.

Something like "I am starting to really like you," in the right context, at the right time, and with the right delivery can do wonders. But then be chill about the whole thing, without going so chill that she thinks you're not interested. Be "casually interested" and allow it to build slowly. You get my drift.

I understand what you're saying, this whole thing with giving an obvious IOI is a somewhat new territory for me. Her and I both work in the food service area of a hospital. At this point, I am clueless as to how to show her that I am interested without coming across needy.


She has long hair but she has to have it tied up and wears a hat because of working with food. I have seen her with her hair down. It is long and black. What if I made a comment about saying "I like your hair how long does it take for you to get the way you want it when you're going out somewhere?" She wears some make up to bring out her face features. She has a sister who works in the same food area as us. Both sisters are very attractive. A lot of guys hit on the other sister. However, a lot of guys tell me every time they see the girl, I am interested in, there goes your girlfriend. Oh one other thing, she wore a purple shirt that the hospital provides. So maybe I could comment to her, I noticed you were wearing a purple shirt the other day. Is purple your favorite color?

Thanks

Shannon