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You are on the correct path, however, there are some things you need to be aware of.

The purpose of Alpha Male and magnets is to get you to a state of not needing women, not relying on them for happiness / excitement / get in the way of your goals and accomplishments. There seem to be two types of big things that occur those to resist Alpha Male. On the one hand you have the resistance of giving up women, which is why you see many on AM that say they wanna give up women but then the next day say "**** it I HAVE TO GO OUT AND APPROACH". This is fear based response to being alone and happy. On the other hand, you have resistance of being proactive, motivated and overcoming laziness / desire to do things that interest you.

You seem to have overcome the resistance in letting women go, which is ultimately the hardest and scariest to get rid of. Same with friends, socializing. You don't need it to complete you, which is very healthy. After all your only basic needs in life are food, shelter, and health. Happiness does contribute to health, but happiness doesn't need to come externally.

When you let women go, then what? Well, it's a huge shock when you actually do it. You can say all day "I don't need women, I don't need women" but when you truly don't need them, it's like a big punch in the gut, "Ok what now?" and you may feel lost, incomplete and really depressed.

I can see how. Now you can realize how much of your mood, goals in life, and motivation was based upon women and being with women. That is a LARGE chunk of your life, which you can tell right now. Dealing with people, caring about other people, especially women is a whole lot of suffering and preoccupation, especially because I'm sure it has been a large chunk of your life since puberty.

Ok, so now... you really need to spend some time truly figuring out what will make you happy. What makes you, YOU, without women or friends. What do you want to do with your life? Where do you want to go? What makes you laugh and happiest without other people involved? When you can figure out who you really are without others, you can learn to be happy with it and enjoy it.

My take is find the very one thing you love, do it as much as you can, become an expert on it, keep learning it and find a way to do it for life (as a living). If you have no attachment to the object of "making a living" but "I just love doing this", that's the one thing you can be satisfied with and can do as a living.

For me, I didn't realize what I wanted in life until I looked back before I even cared about getting with lots of women. I went back to the things i once LOVED that I thought I HAD to give up in order to be more social, get laid, and make lots of friends. Those were the things that made me happy and I wanted to do with my life but I gave them up for shit. So I've returned to them, and I am happy (playing video games, movies, reading about/learning new things, making games, art, business).

Another example, take a look at Shannon. The guy can spend all day everyday working on subliminals/perfume and not have to have a woman to get through the day, or even think about them. But he can go out when he wants and women are comfortable around him.

Once you can figure that out, and get over this hump, you'll see massive improvement in your ability to do things, get things done, and live your life peacefully. Add in a magnet next (AND YES, BE EXCITED ABOUT IT AND WOMEN, but don't need them ) and you'll see how hard women try to be apart of your life because you no longer have such a preoccupied mind on them, but instead on better things for yourself. And I will be honest, for me, at the beginning of SM I feel like I went through this same funk you are now. By the end, and every time I do it, I find it very very easy to live peacefully and do things I enjoy, be more productive, and have more fun with things without even thinking about a woman). WM, the same, even though it's all about women, when you don't need them or know that you have an abundance, you don't think about them, you just live.

It seems counter-intuitive but until you can be a magnet, you have to forget about it and make yourself happy

You've come a long way