04-23-2011, 09:56 AM
It's hard to say man. I come off as intimidating so no one at work comes and talks to me unless i talk to them. Everyone one is glad to be around me but for some reason I scare them off maybe they think they won't look good in front of me or some bullshit. I do have a co worker sharing an office with me and we chit chat all the time without a care and sometimes co workers come in and talk to him sometimes but he's always out and about chatting up everyone.
It just depends on what kind of person you are... you get what you give in some cases and I guess that's his case. I don't go and talk to people much.. at least not anymore because no one's reciprocated as much as I thought they would. I ask alot of questions about everyone because I'm interested and in some way that shoos everyone off and I think it's because they aren't sure they will please me in some way. This could be a little egotistical but I think this is the way it is. Plus since I'm usually an introvert I come off as more intimidating. Don't take it too personally... just let it go. If you want it to change.. become more of an extrovert and just chat everyone up without needing anything out of it of course. Personally it can be tough because it takes energy to get up, walk around, chat everyone up, ask questions, and listen. I do it on my own terms now but like I said I don't do it much anymore if at all. It doesn't bother me either.
It just depends on what kind of person you are... you get what you give in some cases and I guess that's his case. I don't go and talk to people much.. at least not anymore because no one's reciprocated as much as I thought they would. I ask alot of questions about everyone because I'm interested and in some way that shoos everyone off and I think it's because they aren't sure they will please me in some way. This could be a little egotistical but I think this is the way it is. Plus since I'm usually an introvert I come off as more intimidating. Don't take it too personally... just let it go. If you want it to change.. become more of an extrovert and just chat everyone up without needing anything out of it of course. Personally it can be tough because it takes energy to get up, walk around, chat everyone up, ask questions, and listen. I do it on my own terms now but like I said I don't do it much anymore if at all. It doesn't bother me either.
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