03-17-2016, 03:47 PM
(03-17-2016, 03:23 PM)Nox Wrote: I was also a nice kid growing up. Crazy how that supposedly good quality screws you later on.
I think it's actually a good quality to have. The thing that screws us is being taught that nice=approval seeking/validation. If I'm honest I've had a lot of situations where I uphold that "nice" identity just so people like me more. It's like being nice and expecting something in return, which isn't really nice at all. Parents should be taught the perils of trying to raise the perfect nice kid, it results in internalized shame for the expression of so called "bad" emotions.
