03-14-2016, 05:48 AM
(03-14-2016, 05:30 AM)mat422 Wrote:(03-13-2016, 05:01 PM)4Kingdoms Wrote:(03-10-2016, 08:02 AM)mat422 Wrote: I also had a realization why I'm having trouble reading some books I'm interested in learning from. A lot of the books I'm reading come from people that are a lot better at what they do than me, which triggers that comparison reaction. So I'll be trying to read but thinking things like I'm so far away from being as good and knowledgeable as them about this material. That causes stress and then I lose focus. Little by little, I'm noticing this behavior decreasing and it's made it easier for me to focus because my self worth isn't tied up in learning something.
Isn't that the purpose of learning from someone with more experience than you? Model your behavior after their success; so you can become successful at a faster, quicker pace??
It's good that your need to compare yourself to them is decreasing. Eventually, the student becomes the master and surpasses the teacher.
Logically that makes sense. But that stemmed from an emotional issue of feeling like I was never good enough. It just added more fuel to the fire. It's really hard to describe unless you've been there. It was like feeling like I was going to fail before I even started reading.
I used to have this exact problem man! I had to start switching up why I wanted to learn. I had to go from "this dude is way better than me at this... Why bother if I'm never going to be number 1?" to "I want to learn this because it interests me, and not for any other reason."
Basically I was competing against people I had never met and never would. As soon as I consciously started to learn things fo enjoyment instead of competition it started to help.
