In3deeps's Quest to Attract His Perfect Wife

[JJ54]

Sigh. You guys still don't get it.

Step 1. Turn on the program.
Step 2. Do something else, and FORGET ABOUT IT.

It really is that simple. No need to "help it along". If you get out of your own damned way, the program and your own subconscious mind will take care of the rest. Any more than that and you're trying to dance with three left feet.

But I'm not getting through because you're too scared to follow the directions. You're needy, and that's going to get in your way of success. I sometimes think I should discontinue the attraction programs because people can't let go and get out of their own way and then I get blamed for their failure.

I'd like you to share with me exactly why it is that you're running this program. I know you want to manifest your perfect wife, but why?

Please don't discontinue the attraction subs, Shannon. How else am I going to attract my perfect Japanese lover? lol

[Ricardo]

I'd like you to share with me exactly why it is that you're running this program. I know you want to manifest your perfect wife, but why?

To get married?

[Clansy]

Sigh. You guys still don't get it.

Step 1. Turn on the program.
Step 2. Do something else, and FORGET ABOUT IT.

It really is that simple. No need to "help it along". If you get out of your own damned way, the program and your own subconscious mind will take care of the rest. Any more than that and you're trying to dance with three left feet.

But I'm not getting through because you're too scared to follow the directions. You're needy, and that's going to get in your way of success. I sometimes think I should discontinue the attraction programs because people can't let go and get out of their own way and then I get blamed for their failure.

I'd like you to share with me exactly why it is that you're running this program. I know you want to manifest your perfect wife, but why?

Shannon how about trying to add part of script that makes people not to think about results and helps them to continue using it till the goal is achieved. Basically "Set it and forget it" programming in attraction program.

[TheRealJustin]

okay thats portions abit demotivating

Man, you should really look into some self development and dating advice, and just become better everyday and put in your part while the sub puts in its part. Imagine if you were doing 'manifest your dream home' If while you were manifesting the home you put in your part and saved up a bunch of money then maybe by the time it manifested you would have enough for a down payment and get into the house right away, but if you do nothing once you see the house think of how much more will have to happen in order for it to become yours. You'll have to wait through a chain of events for it to just get handed to you. If you imagine your perfect wife, and right now she's a total dime piece, perky, full of energy and full of life, and your life is just a mess, you might have to wait until she's like 40 and has lower standards before she'll be with you. If you want it to happen sooner than later then put in your part. Right now I'm running BASE 3g, and I know it's different because it's not a manifestation sub at least not exclusively, but I'm putting in my part everyday. I'm not just sitting around like "am I a successful entrepreneur yet?" and not doing anything. I'm doing my part working hard everyday and trusting that the sub is doing its part too. Keep playing the sub, but pretend like the sub doesn't even exist and start developing yourself as you would if you wanted a perfect wife and these subs didn't exist at all. Don't just wait around, take action and take control. That combined with the sub I would think would make things happen a lot faster and a lot easier for you. Take it all with a grain of salt because I really don't know anything about how manifesting something works, but I would guess if you put in effort things would happen quicker and easier. Example, if you wanted to manifest yourself being a movie star, moving to Hollywood would help make it happen A LOT faster and easier than it would if you're just sitting in Idaho not doing anything at all. I'm not in anyway trying to rag on you or bring you down so please take it in a positive way. I'm only trying to help.

yeah mate I get what you are trying to say... but its not like I've been sitting around on my ass and expecting her to fall from the sky... since
i started the sub... I've gotten a new job... a job which is coveted and hard to get mind you... earning a decent salary..made more friends at work... started taking part in new activities like learning tennis, yoga etc.. I even now go for all social invites as and when they come even though there's limited chance of getting to know new people.. ive begun to deal with pheromones etc

so would appreciate everyone stop saying that I'm not doing anything and just waiting for magic to happen or that my life is a mess... my life may not be perfect but its is not a mess by any means... and that's the reason I am using the sub.. the way people have been saying my life needs to improve is like i'm a unemployed homeless guy sleeping in the attic the whole day juz playing the sub and waiting for things to happen.. I've done my part to an extend, it not maybe be good enough for many of u all here...but it is what it is... I can only grab opportunities as and when and if they come along.. and when it comes I've grabbed it

im sorry if I sounded rude above... and I know there r areas to improve... I know I haven exactly been set n forget... but just wanted to let u guys know that its not like ive been working 100% against the sub n expecting miracles

LMAO! I'm sorry man, from what I did read here I actually was picturing a lonely guy probably collecting SSI and not doing anything ever, just sitting and waiting, lol. So yea, you don't really need much self development, just keep living, and like Shannon said just keep playing the sub and let it do its thing without even thinking about it.

[Trend]

Sigh. You guys still don't get it.

Step 1. Turn on the program.
Step 2. Do something else, and FORGET ABOUT IT.

It really is that simple. No need to "help it along". If you get out of your own damned way, the program and your own subconscious mind will take care of the rest. Any more than that and you're trying to dance with three left feet.

But I'm not getting through because you're too scared to follow the directions. You're needy, and that's going to get in your way of success. I sometimes think I should discontinue the attraction programs because people can't let go and get out of their own way and then I get blamed for their failure.

I'd like you to share with me exactly why it is that you're running this program. I know you want to manifest your perfect wife, but why?

Please don't discontinue the attraction subs, Shannon. How else am I going to attract my perfect Japanese lover? lol

LOL ... thinking of taking up the challenge myself, just 4 kicks ... no Japanese people where I am, just Anglo-Canadians

[TheRealJustin]

I truly believe he has already attracted his wife. As long as he keeps an open-mind and continues his self-development, it's not a matter of "if" but "when" she will appear. One thing I'm learning after doing some research of Law of Attraction, the user has to believe his manifestation has already happened. That's one of the reasons why Shannon said, "Set it and Forget it."

The "Law of Attraction" is only one of several "Universal Laws" that all need to be understood in order to get the results. The "Law of Attraction" isn't even the most powerful of those laws. The Law of Attraction only works if you obey the other laws that matter to it. Those include (among others), in layman's terms:

You have to provide clarity of intent and desire.
You have to provide enough energy to cause the change, both internally and externally.
You have to step out of the way and not interfere with the process.

The program gives clarity of intent and desire.
The program provides direction to the provision of energy, although it is a steady trickle in comparison to the active manifestation process, which is why it takes about 8 times a long to do it passively on average.
The stepping out of the way... that you have to do yourself.

You cannot sail to Trinidad if the Captain is giving orders and the helmsman is trying to run interference. That's about what is happening: The subconscious is doing what the program is directing it to do, but the conscious mind is afraid and is in effect self sabotaging. It's basically cockblocking yourself out of fear that you might succeed.

The Law of Attract works, but only when you obey the other laws that it depends on. Self sabotaging is not going to get you anywhere, regardless of how much or how well the law works.

Awesome post! The only "PUA" I still learn from is Tyler Durden (Owen Cook) from Real Social Dynamics, and he's ALWAYS talking about clarity of intent. You two must learn from similar people / have similar influences. A good leader follows good leaders in my book. If I was famous, that would be a famous quote. I barely count him as pua though because he's really more about yea we can all get women, but there's more important things we need to focus on.

[TheRealJustin]

I'd like you to share with me exactly why it is that you're running this program. I know you want to manifest your perfect wife, but why?

To get married?

LMAO!!! People get married for all sorts of reasons. Do you want a perfect wife to... start a family with? Do you want a perfect wife to... understand how important your job is so she is okay with your crazy work hours? Do you want a perfect wife to... travel the world with you to experience new things together?

Then there is, Do you want a perfect wife to support you so you can be lazy and sleep all day in bed? Do you want a perfect wife to... be okay with your drug habits? Do you want a perfect wife to... cook and clean the house all day so you don't have to hire a maid?

I think he's asking because most guys want the perfect wife to fill a hole in their life. Most guys that rarely get girls want to get married so they have someone and have that safety net, and most guys that always get girls don't want to get married because they are coming from abundance instead of scarcity. Kind of like a bum would cling to a dollar, and a rich guy would let tons of dollars slip away because to him it's not a big deal. That's why I think Shannon is asking why he wants a wife, if it's out of desperation, or if it's out of truly wanting it. Example, if he had girls crawling all over him all day everyday, would he still want a wife super bad, or in that case would he want to just be single and have fun with all these different girls that are all over him. I think Shannon just wants to see if he really truly wants a wife, or if he just wants to fill a hole in his life because if he did have gorgeous women crawling all over him daily, and loved that and just wanted that instead, then his 'clarity of intent' is screwed up, but I'm a little buzzed, and like all things, just keep what you resonate with and throw out the rest.

[in3deep]

I'd like you to share with me exactly why it is that you're running this program. I know you want to manifest your perfect wife, but why?

To get married?

LMAO!!! People get married for all sorts of reasons. Do you want a perfect wife to... start a family with? Do you want a perfect wife to... understand how important your job is so she is okay with your crazy work hours? Do you want a perfect wife to... travel the world with you to experience new things together?

Then there is, Do you want a perfect wife to support you so you can be lazy and sleep all day in bed? Do you want a perfect wife to... be okay with your drug habits? Do you want a perfect wife to... cook and clean the house all day so you don't have to hire a maid?

I think he's asking because most guys want the perfect wife to fill a hole in their life. Most guys that rarely get girls want to get married so they have someone and have that safety net, and most guys that always get girls don't want to get married because they are coming from abundance instead of scarcity. Kind of like a bum would cling to a dollar, and a rich guy would let tons of dollars slip away because to him it's not a big deal. That's why I think Shannon is asking why he wants a wife, if it's out of desperation, or if it's out of truly wanting it. Example, if he had girls crawling all over him all day everyday, would he still want a wife super bad, or in that case would he want to just be single and have fun with all these different girls that are all over him. I think Shannon just wants to see if he really truly wants a wife, or if he just wants to fill a hole in his life because if he did have gorgeous women crawling all over him daily, and loved that and just wanted that instead, then his 'clarity of intent' is screwed up, but I'm a little buzzed, and like all things, just keep what you resonate with and throw out the rest.

going by your logic there shouldn't be anyone using these manifestation subs cause the guys who have tons of chicks in their life wouldn't need to use the sub as they have no use for it

and the ones who use the sub cause they have some need for it get labeled as desperate and lacking...

same for women magnet or sex magnet... 95% of the people use it cause they need improvement in the area...

way to go...

the way i see it... im upfront and show the results for what is... im not one the many ard here who use WM or SM and jizzed in their pants juz cause a girl looked in their direction or touched her hair and start declaring that the sub was the next best thing since sliced bread.

Note to shannon : i;m not criticizing your products.... i have huge respect... ive gotten results with non-manifestation products... im just responding to those who think that my life is a mess when infact 80% of my life is a success and all im trying to do is get the remaining 20% under control

anyway to answer shannon's question: the part of the world where i m from, if i dont find a girl to settle down with myself, my parents will matchmake... trying to avoid that by finding someone on my own and the clock's ticking

[ffaux]

I look forward to seeing your results man. I'm pretty damn sure I'll be running this subliminal too when I feel ready to get married.

[Ricardo]

Yes, my friend who manifested his perfect sexual lover using the 5G sub is considering marrying her and moving in together. She's pretty much addicted to him and he's telling me she's what he always wanted.

He was already doing the online dating, unsuccessfully so, before, then 3 weeks after the sub, she showed up in his life.

What you described above are pretty much his qualities, he had no expectations, just trusted me to buy and use the program properly, no over-analyzing, neediness, just doing his thing, living his life and following the listening schedule.

The program that worked for him is 5G though

The 5G version is one I plan on using so it's good to hear that it's worked so well.
I'm not interested in marriage so perfect wife is not one I would use. I do really believe that these attraction subs should be in 5G at least. I've not actually used a 4G sub yet and although I understand it's still a good technology it just doesn't seem good enough for these AYP's.

[Shannon]

Note to shannon : i;m not criticizing your products.... i have huge respect... ive gotten results with non-manifestation products... im just responding to those who think that my life is a mess when infact 80% of my life is a success and all im trying to do is get the remaining 20% under control

Don't worry about it. I can handle criticism, even if you're not intending any. I would not have gotten to where I am if I could not.

anyway to answer shannon's question: the part of the world where i m from, if i dont find a girl to settle down with myself, my parents will matchmake... trying to avoid that by finding someone on my own and the clock's ticking

The reason I was asking is because I believed that you were so focused on interrupting yourself out of desperation. Desperation is based on fear. Understanding where that fear comes from, and why, is important in allowing me to understand what your situation is so I can try to help you.

In your shoes, I can understand how and why you would be driven by fear. But you're going to have to understand that regardless, you can achieve the goal much better by being at peace within yourself. You need to set it and forget it. I know that's difficult when you are motivated by fear, but I am no stranger to standing in your shoes regarding fear and manifestation programs. I had nothing to really lose when I started using them, and yet I was scared to death. It took me few days to really just let go and trust the program. Three, I think it was. Maybe four. But my fear was in not knowing what would happen if I let go and trusted the program.

Before that I had only done active manifestations, and I was very, very specific. At one point I sat down and drafted a list of 19 different qualities and features I wanted her to have. I was trying to prove to myself that it was not happening by coincidence. So I created this list that was so unlikely that I honestly did not believe I could make it happen, even if it was not by coincidence. Long, wavy naturally flame red hair. Blue eyes, full lips, freckles, C cup breasts, areolas so pale you could not see them, and then I started getting hardcore. I decided that to really test this, she should be 22 years old exactly, and have inverted nipples and be a virgin. How the hell likely are those features all at once? There were a total of 19 such very specific properties, and when I got done, I was estimating the odds. I figured such a woman would be most likely unique in the world, if she existed at all. The hardest test I could throw at it. And I set about my active manifestation protocols, and guess what? She IMed me out of the blue 13 days later and we started talking. Turned out she'd read one of my stories and was a fan. This girl was every bit of everything I had asked for. Perfect. The only thing that kept me from doing anything with her? I had forgotten one critical component. Where she should be located. She was half way around the world from me. In Australia!

At that time, I was far too poor to afford a plane ticket to Australia, never mind lodging, food, transportation. We had a long distance relationship for a couple months, and in spite of how many guys were after her I managed to keep her interest. She even sent me pictures of herself nude, and boy was she a stunner. Every single feature was exactly what I had asked for. Every single feature was p-e-r-f-e-c-t. And yet she slipped out of my grasp, gave her virginity to someone else, and disappeared from my radar because I had forgotten one single detail.

It was at that point, after having five different active manifestations in a row fail because I had always forgotten one key detail, that I decided to try to use the only description being "perfect". And that scared the heck out of me. If I did not specify everything in infinite detail, what if? And what if? And what if?

But over the course of three r four nights of this anxiety, I realized that if she was perfect, it would not matter if I specified anything, because if it worked, she would be perfect. And so I set it and forgot it. Until about 4 months in, when I realized, nothing had happened. And having never used passive manifestation before, I did not know how long it would take. I was going on blind faith, and I was starting to get worried. But I kept going, because I did not know.

Four days later, I got a phone call from a girl I had worked with at a call center a couple years prior, and who had also modeled for me. And we were so powerfully attracted to one another over the phone that even though we had only an hour to talk, we kept talking on IM. And then we discovered that we shared a very specific interest, and that we had also managed to sign up for the very same dating site. When I filled out the matchmaker questionnaire, and searched for matches, she was the first one to pop up, and with a compatibility score of... 100%. That very night, I said something to her, five little words, and those five words kickstarted our relationship. She wanted me to come over and have sex with her that same night, but I would not. I did agree to go on a date with her the next night, however. And again she wanted sex, and again I said no. I knew I had someone special, and I was not about to screw it up by making her think all I wanted was sex.

That woman is still in my life. She and I still share an incredible energy between us that I can only describe as impossibly magnetic and erotic. We cannot go 2 hours together without having sex unless I am playing a subliminal specifically designed to turn off our sex drives. Our natural response to one another is just that powerful, and a few months ago when she came back into my life after a year apart, I told her that we could not go 2 hours without sex and she laughed at me. I should have made a bet, because like clockwork, within 2 hours we were having sex. And she was astonished. She thought she had "outgrown that". But here we are, almost 10 years after having met for the first time, and we still respond to each other that way. Every time. She was who I got answering my call when I called for my perfect lover.

Now, if I had tried to constantly monitor the program's progress, my conscious attention would have derailed my efforts by refocusing my energy in ways that interfered. I have done that to myself in the past, when I first started doing active manifestations. I had a spectacular failure when I was so desperate for money that I never stopped thinking about it and looking for it. That was my second active manifestation. My third was also a spectacular failure, I was trying to get a car, and I did the same thing with the same results. And then I sat down and considered what I had done the first time, differently than the second and third times, and I realized that it was simple. I had focused on what I needed, and I was passionate about it, and when I was done asking for it, I forgot about it and went on with my life. I set it and forgot it.

So, I am not saying the program will not or cannot work for you otherwise, but I am saying this. The best chance of success comes if you set it and forget it. The worst case scenario is that it does not work, right? What happens if you don't use it at all? It will not work. What happens if you self sabotage? Good chance it will not work. But if you set it and forget it, there is a very good chance that you'll get what you ask for.

So given that fact, what is there that you can do to make it work other than setting it down and walking away and allowing the program to do it's thing? Nothing. Nothing at all. The only option you really have is to set it, surrender, be at peace, and forget it.

Peace be with you, my friend. And remember that manifestations sometimes arrive in very unexpected ways, and very unexpected packages. You are not likely to even know what to look for. But when she arrives, there will be no mistake. It's just likely to take a bit of time to realize who you're dealing with at first.

Surrender. Set it and forget it. Trust in yourself. Be at peace. Allow the abundance of the universe to supply you.

[Ricardo]

Note to shannon : i;m not criticizing your products.... i have huge respect... ive gotten results with non-manifestation products... im just responding to those who think that my life is a mess when infact 80% of my life is a success and all im trying to do is get the remaining 20% under control

Don't worry about it. I can handle criticism, even if you're not intending any. I would not have gotten to where I am if I could not.

anyway to answer shannon's question: the part of the world where i m from, if i dont find a girl to settle down with myself, my parents will matchmake... trying to avoid that by finding someone on my own and the clock's ticking

The reason I was asking is because I believed that you were so focused on interrupting yourself out of desperation. Desperation is based on fear. Understanding where that fear comes from, and why, is important in allowing me to understand what your situation is so I can try to help you.

In your shoes, I can understand how and why you would be driven by fear. But you're going to have to understand that regardless, you can achieve the goal much better by being at peace within yourself. You need to set it and forget it. I know that's difficult when you are motivated by fear, but I am no stranger to standing in your shoes regarding fear and manifestation programs. I had nothing to really lose when I started using them, and yet I was scared to death. It took me few days to really just let go and trust the program. Three, I think it was. Maybe four. But my fear was in not knowing what would happen if I let go and trusted the program.

Before that I had only done active manifestations, and I was very, very specific. At one point I sat down and drafted a list of 19 different qualities and features I wanted her to have. I was trying to prove to myself that it was not happening by coincidence. So I created this list that was so unlikely that I honestly did not believe I could make it happen, even if it was not by coincidence. Long, wavy naturally flame red hair. Blue eyes, full lips, freckles, C cup breasts, areolas so pale you could not see them, and then I started getting hardcore. I decided that to really test this, she should be 22 years old exactly, and have inverted nipples and be a virgin. How the hell likely are those features all at once? There were a total of 19 such very specific properties, and when I got done, I was estimating the odds. I figured such a woman would be most likely unique in the world, if she existed at all. The hardest test I could throw at it. And I set about my active manifestation protocols, and guess what? She IMed me out of the blue 13 days later and we started talking. Turned out she'd read one of my stories and was a fan. This girl was every bit of everything I had asked for. Perfect. The only thing that kept me from doing anything with her? I had forgotten one critical component. Where she should be located. She was half way around the world from me. In Australia!

At that time, I was far too poor to afford a plane ticket to Australia, never mind lodging, food, transportation. We had a long distance relationship for a couple months, and in spite of how many guys were after her I managed to keep her interest. She even sent me pictures of herself nude, and boy was she a stunner. Every single feature was exactly what I had asked for. Every single feature was p-e-r-f-e-c-t. And yet she slipped out of my grasp, gave her virginity to someone else, and disappeared from my radar because I had forgotten one single detail.

It was at that point, after having five different active manifestations in a row fail because I had always forgotten one key detail, that I decided to try to use the only description being "perfect". And that scared the heck out of me. If I did not specify everything in infinite detail, what if? And what if? And what if?

But over the course of three r four nights of this anxiety, I realized that if she was perfect, it would not matter if I specified anything, because if it worked, she would be perfect. And so I set it and forgot it. Until about 4 months in, when I realized, nothing had happened. And having never used passive manifestation before, I did not know how long it would take. I was going on blind faith, and I was starting to get worried. But I kept going, because I did not know.

Four days later, I got a phone call from a girl I had worked with at a call center a couple years prior, and who had also modeled for me. And we were so powerfully attracted to one another over the phone that even though we had only an hour to talk, we kept talking on IM. And then we discovered that we shared a very specific interest, and that we had also managed to sign up for the very same dating site. When I filled out the matchmaker questionnaire, and searched for matches, she was the first one to pop up, and with a compatibility score of... 100%. That very night, I said something to her, five little words, and those five words kickstarted our relationship. She wanted me to come over and have sex with her that same night, but I would not. I did agree to go on a date with her the next night, however. And again she wanted sex, and again I said no. I knew I had someone special, and I was not about to screw it up by making her think all I wanted was sex.

That woman is still in my life. She and I still share an incredible energy between us that I can only describe as impossibly magnetic and erotic. We cannot go 2 hours together without having sex unless I am playing a subliminal specifically designed to turn off our sex drives. Our natural response to one another is just that powerful, and a few months ago when she came back into my life after a year apart, I told her that we could not go 2 hours without sex and she laughed at me. I should have made a bet, because like clockwork, within 2 hours we were having sex. And she was astonished. She thought she had "outgrown that". But here we are, almost 10 years after having met for the first time, and we still respond to each other that way. Every time. She was who I got answering my call when I called for my perfect lover.

Now, if I had tried to constantly monitor the program's progress, my conscious attention would have derailed my efforts by refocusing my energy in ways that interfered. I have done that to myself in the past, when I first started doing active manifestations. I had a spectacular failure when I was so desperate for money that I never stopped thinking about it and looking for it. That was my second active manifestation. My third was also a spectacular failure, I was trying to get a car, and I did the same thing with the same results. And then I sat down and considered what I had done the first time, differently than the second and third times, and I realized that it was simple. I had focused on what I needed, and I was passionate about it, and when I was done asking for it, I forgot about it and went on with my life. I set it and forgot it.

So, I am not saying the program will not or cannot work for you otherwise, but I am saying this. The best chance of success comes if you set it and forget it. The worst case scenario is that it does not work, right? What happens if you don't use it at all? It will not work. What happens if you self sabotage? Good chance it will not work. But if you set it and forget it, there is a very good chance that you'll get what you ask for.

So given that fact, what is there that you can do to make it work other than setting it down and walking away and allowing the program to do it's thing? Nothing. Nothing at all. The only option you really have is to set it, surrender, be at peace, and forget it.

Peace be with you, my friend. And remember that manifestations sometimes arrive in very unexpected ways, and very unexpected packages. You are not likely to even know what to look for. But when she arrives, there will be no mistake. It's just likely to take a bit of time to realize who you're dealing with at first.

Surrender. Set it and forget it. Trust in yourself. Be at peace. Allow the abundance of the universe to supply you.

But if you had specified a more local area, she might not have existed there and you'd have got no results and thought it didn't work. By adding 'perfect' to include everything you originally couldn't think of might be the limiting factor in these AYP's. Our Perfect types more than likely don't exist in the desired vicinity, if at all

[Shannon]

But if you had specified a more local area, she might not have existed there and you'd have got no results and thought it didn't work. By adding 'perfect' to include everything you originally couldn't think of might be the limiting factor in these AYP's. Our Perfect types more than likely don't exist in the desired vicinity, if at allHuh

Perfect is perfect. If she is perfect, she will exist within a vicinity you can access. How perfect could she be if she is around the world from you and has no way of getting to you, or vice versa? My perfect lover traveled from another country hundreds of miles away, to move to my town, just five miles from my house in order to be where she was when I called for her.

My perfect naturally platinum blonde lover moved from New York state to Florida, just three miles away, before answering my call. She also got a divorce. They say that manifestation always appears to be a coincidence. So her divorce was not caused by my calling for her, it coincided with the timing, and that is part of what made her perfect: she was getting a divorce, she was moving to my town, and she was not interested in the sort of relationship I did not want when I met her.

Perfect means perfect. If she exists, if she is not engaged in some very important life lesson type distraction, she will come. And it may take some time for her to extricate herself from such circumstances, but if you call for her correctly... she will come.

["Q"]

anyway to answer shannon's question: the part of the world where i m from, if i dont find a girl to settle down with myself, my parents will matchmake... trying to avoid that by finding someone on my own and the clock's ticking

I say this with an attitude of respect - perhaps the bigger issue is that you need overcome the external pressures of doing something that you do not actually want to do, nor feel ready to. I feel that it is hugely disrespectful to you for anyone to impose something like that onto you if you are not ready for it, purely for "face" value or because they are trying to appease some kind of "society shaming monster". Basically, society does not really care that much. Also, the parents only care because of "their own" unnecessary shame when gossiping to friends and random people.