I wouldn't change any of the mistakes I've made, to be honest. There are so many mistakes we make in game, but it's like we have unlimited lives. We go back to play again and again till we get to the next level. You can compare it to the analogy of a video game - dying over and over again, while having unlimited lives, but we gain experience, and know how to play it better every time afterwards.
There are so many times you could make a certain mistake before you learn to correct it. The key is to be intelligent and efficient. If what you're doing doesn't work, try something else. Watch a lotta videos from dating coaches who have been doing it for many years and take what's applicable to you and what not.
If I could go back in time and redo it all, I wouldn't have started pick up in 2015. I would have started in 2005. That's the only thing I'd change. Because it's been an amazing year for me, and I dunno why it's taking too long. I'd tell myself there's light at the end of the tunnel and just persisting and I'll get there.
The thing about theory vs real life experience is that it's totally different what you read in books. When I was reading all that 'The Game' and 'Mystery Method' nonsense, none of that applied to reality. The two books I've read that was the closest to the reality of my experience was 'Destroy Approach Anxiety' and 'Direct Day Game Method' by Charlie Valentino. His perceptive really helped a lot. Although, reading about it in books and seeing it on video, it's never the same as when you actually do it in real life.
My experience of what actually works and what girls respond to more. A positive / optimistic mindset is everything. Go out not expecting any outcome, but at the same time have a sense of urgency that you do wanna improve, as well as being content with your progress at the end of the day. Don't beat yourself up with your mistakes. It helps to keep this in mind: you know you're gonna be successful in time and you know you're gonna get laid and meet this amazing girl who you're gonna share wonderful experiences with, and then you'll meet many more like that. If you know this is already gonna happen, wouldn't you be supper ecstatic? Say you knew you were gonna win the lottery, you would be super excited too right? It's the exact same thing. Put yourself in the emotion of how you will feel when you have achieved what you want, you will manifest those results much faster. I always get amazing results when I'm optimistic and full of gratitude. Whereas when I'm trying to shoot for an outcome, I get nothing that day.
Don't be afraid to speak louder and just be more dominant (but at the same time relaxed/comfortable) with your body language. If you've been reading my journals, you might have noticed I have my own technique that I developed. Go up to a girl and stroke her arm subtly and sensually with the back of your hand, and go all the way down. A lotta my friends try this, but they could never get it to work. They always freak the girl out. You have to assume attraction and rapport. Know that you're an attractive guy and that you're the prize. She should be honoured that you approached her. Give her the "I am gonna fuck you" look as you deliver your opening line that's usually a compliment. This combo is so powerful and I can very often spike attraction right off the approach from these things.
Approach more 9s and 10s, just because they are easier to attract than the 7s and 8s. A lotta guys believe hotter is more difficult to pick up, but that's because they think they themselves are a 7 for example, so they're only able to attract 7s. And anything above the 7, they believe is way out of their league, so they never get them. Therefore, it's their belief that 8s, 9s, 10s are harder. Once you approach enough 10s and go on dates with a few of them, you'll realise they are just another girl and you'll see how normal they are. Then you become a 10. Once you go back to trying to pick up 7s or 8s, you'll find that they are so much harder. By law of state transference, you feel what the other person feels and vice versa. When you are super turned on by the girl, and as soon as you're unphased by her beauty, she'll feel what you feel. Give her the "I'm gonna fuck you" look, and it says it all. Even better if you give her the sensual touch. In her mind, she'll think who the heck is that confident guy to approach me like that? This is what spikes attraction so fast. Cause girls are drawn to guys who she believes are slightly above/better than her. When you've evolved to a 10, you'll consistently get 10s. You attract what you are.
So yeah, all these concepts, I'm trying so hard to help my friends understand. A lot of them still spam approach, and they don't get so many numbers. They are comfortable with the 7s and 8s, but intimidated by the 10s. I just focus on 9s and 10s - or the occasional 8s. I don't even approach that much anymore. Last week I approached 3 girls and closed all 3 of them. Later that week, I approached 4 and closed 2 of them (1 was an instant date and another was a fb close). Once you get to that level when you're consistently getting the higher calibre girls, you don't even wanna approach the 6s or 7s anymore. You're willing to pass up that opportunity. Jeffy was saying this on his latest free tour vid too. He doesn't approach much, but when he does, he makes them count. He doesn't need to do warm up approaches anymore, cause his state is always high. I'm the same in daygame. Yes, I always get accused of being too picky. But those mass/spam approaching guys, they don't quite understand the evolution of the process. I was once there too when I approached 20-35 girls in a day, cause I had to break out of that anxiety. And there are many more 6s, 7s, 8s on the street. That's why when your standards are still lower, you'll naturally have more girls to approach. Of course, when you're still a newbie or getting over your anxiety, I recommend people to do mass approaching. It's such a crucial stage in game. However there will come a time when you'll eventually be over it. When you're just focusing on 9s and 10s, of course your volume would dramatically decrease, but your return will improve at the same time cause you're just better at closing. While my friends are just getting 6s and 7s, they keep noticing that I'm closing the 9s and 10s, then it shuts them up. They finally stop telling me to approach more and to not to be picky.
What a long rant lol. If you have any more specific questions, just ask. I'm off to sleep now.
